[dead4crow]

I have never been in a relationship, nor have I ever wanted to have sex with anyone. I'm 26, over 160 lb, no *ehem* chest to speak of, and genetic baldness... I'm too ugly to be in a relationship. To ugly to have sex with anyone, no one would want to be with me. What can I do?

[JoeCanada76]

Change your attitude for one.

People do not want to be with somebody that has low self esteem about themselves.

[shazamataz]

You aren't too ugly, I can tell you that without even looking at you.
Yeah sure you might look at someone and think "they aren't very pretty" but then a friend of yours looks at them and thinks "WOW! She's hot!"
It's all personal taste and you just haven't found the right person for you.

Confidence has a lot to do with being able to get a boyfriend.
I used to be extremely shy, I hardly talked to anyone, then one day I just went "well, screw it, this is getting me nowhere" and made an effort to start talking to people.
I was scared at first but as my confidence grew so did my list of friends, and then, boyfriends.

Find your best feature, whether it be your butt, legs, eyes or smile and flaunt it!
I think my most attractive feature is my eyes, so I play it up... when I go out I lay on the sexy, smokey eyeshadow and it gives me a little boost of confidence.

Just a little personal story, there was a girl at my old work, she was rather overweight (to the point where she could not work on the normal registers) but she had the bubbliest, nicest personality. Her boyfriend is *checks fiancé isn't near her* HOT.

[smoothy]

There is a match for everyone out there... as was mentioned... attitude is one thing... second is realistic goals ( don't fixate on any one person... keep your eyes open for those who do find you personality appealing because they are out there). Those two things apply to everyone equally.

[RedBluePink]

Do not ever depend on looks... I have plenty of friends and the ones that society think are 'ugly' are my coolest friends. The way a person presents themselves is everything.. If you don't attract a person because there too focused on your looks, that's better because you do not want a shallow person who cares about nothing else but what's on the outside...

My last boyfriend I wasn't the least bit attracted to but when he started talking to me and we became friends he was so down to earth and so much fun we just clicked. He was overweight & extremely insecure about it.. but that doesn't matter the least bit when you know a person on a deeper level then just 'looks'

So try not to rely so much on how much you look and focus more on what you love about yourself and what makes you unique and just love yourself and people will take notice.

[Fr_Chuck]

No one is too ugly, I have what I call Walmart therapy. Go sit outside of the store, see the couples going in, you will see 400 pound people, and you will see hair that makes bald look good.

It is all attitue, for example, I am heavy , blind in one eye, walk with a cane and limp, guess what last year when I was dating, I had dates every weekend, sometimes two.

Dating has so little to do with looks, as it does self confidence

[LaurenFish]

What you can do is take a look around. Most people are NOT super models. Look at real couples. They are everywhere. All shapes and sizes. Look at reality.
Sit in the park and people watch. Remind yourself to look for WHO you find yourself gravitating your gaze towards. Always looking at young attractive 18-20 year olds means you are comparing what 99.9% of people do and then being disappointed with yourself. Everyone does that. Just change your direction and mind on what normal everyday folks look like and you will see that that is the majority.

Keep your head up and all of a sudden when it rains it pours. There is NOTHING more attractive than a person who doesn't care what people think and loves himself anyway and laughs and has a good time.