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    Jan 30, 2010, 12:37 AM
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    Me and my ex lived together for about 4 months and about 2 weeks before the break up she was acting funny and then she told me she needs to talk to me. During this talk she said she loves me but she's not in love with me and she doesn't want to be in a relationship when she said this I was devastated we just finish kissing and hugging and all that good stuff the day before I want to know if there's any way I can win her back if she's really not in love with me or is she just confused... I just really want to know what to do?

    My girlfriend broke up with me for a I love you but I'm not in love with you and I don't want to be in a relationship type thing and of course I hit the wuss boy stage and asked for her back and texted her and called her entirely too much but she's not the type to say yo man back off so I didn't get the hint but its only been a week can NC still work in my favor to get her back if I start now or did I already do too much begging
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    Jan 30, 2010, 01:00 AM

    She is letting you down easy. Take your que. Move on. Begin no contact. Let yourself find someone that will make you truly happy.
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    Jan 30, 2010, 01:17 AM
    NC is not a tool to get somebody back-its for you to heal from the breakup.

    NC will help you move on and realise that it's over.
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    Jan 30, 2010, 02:41 AM

    We all make mistakes when we are hurting,you were emotional at the time.

    Its never to late to start no contact,sticking with it will help you heal and move on with your life.
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    Jan 30, 2010, 02:47 AM

    I'm afraid you can't make someone love you,nor want to be with you.

    She has told you she wants out of the relationship,its over,as much as youwant her back,she does not want you.

    Go no contact,read the stickies in the relationship threads and move on with your life.
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    Jan 30, 2010, 04:43 AM

    Just what does that mean when she says she loves you, but she's not in love with you. Does that mean she loves you like a brother, or that she has very strong feelings toward you like Skippy the dog?

    In love, and being in love, and loving someone isn't something to split hairs over.

    You love somebody, or you don't love somebody.

    I would be a bit miffed with that too.
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    Jan 30, 2010, 05:02 AM

    Her feelings changed and you
    Need to accept that you are broken up.

    Go no contact and heal from the breakup.
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    Jan 30, 2010, 09:45 AM

    She doesn't love you enough to stay in the relationship, so what you do is let her go, and start doing your own thing without her.

    Is she moving out soon? I would have to insist on it!! Don't worry, break ups happen to us all.

    How old are you both, and how long have you been together?
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