[elisha77]

I live in korea, and I'm a english teacher I'm from america, my girlfriend is korean but she speaks english well. When I first met her she was in a bad time, I seen her a lot and we talked a lot on the phone. Then we were getting to know one another. Now since last September she works here in korea as a hostess or a man bar where men drink a lot and talk to the women, she a manager but men always flirt and try to have sex with her or temp her with money, she tells me that a guy said he wanted to marry her, I get jelous because she does need the money and I give her attention, understanding sex, etc. she works 6 days out of the week and I only see her twice a month, when we see each other its so fast. I don't get the time that I want and we have been together for 11 months, in the past 4 months were getting serious, talking about living together , maybe marriage, and we are trying to save money, The major qustion is why did she pick this job, of all places.

[Fr_Chuck]

It was one that paid well and that would hire her?

So she works in a bar, she is honest about what goes on,

You either trust her or you don't ?

Ut why do you only see her so little, other times of day, sounds like scheduling issues

[amicon]

If you don't trust her you don't have much of a relationship.
Make more time for each other and discuss whatever matters need talking about.

[emopunk7]

Find someone you can trust. Some people can be trusted and others can't be. If you feel she is making you jealous on purpose then she is playing games. I had a girlfriend once that was going to work at a bar but I didn't like that. I didn't trust her for many reasons and one was she would not introduce me to her guy friends because she said they wouldn't like me. That they wouldn't like any guy she was with because they liked her... What is that about? Obviously we didn't last more than 6 months. I, for one, was taught clubs and bars are not the best places but learning to be more comfortable day by day. You can't change someone. Boy, do I know that. It is your choice. If you can't deal with it, then find someone else. Honestly, lots of girls work as retail/sales people, hostess and bar tenders. Those are mostly women jobs because it brings attention and they are beautiful creatures. Whether she is at a bar or at a zoo, if she is going to do something behind your back she will. Boy do I know that too well. Trusting is hard but if she hasn't done anything wrong, you must let it go.
About the little time you two spend together, you should let her know that you would like more time together.

[neverme]

It's true you either trust her or you don't.

If you don't move on, the relationship is going nowhere because without trust there is no relationship.

I think this girl isn't playing games with you though, she seems to be straight up about it all.

We could all do with the money but that is not what a marriage is based on! Everyone is tempted, it's the world we live in, it's how we deal with those temptations that separate us, you know?

[Fr_Chuck]

If she worked at a bank, customers would still be flirting, some asking her out, other employees perhaps hitting on her, if you don't trust someone, you can always find the "what if" and come to think of things.

In the end, so she works in a bar, normally customers being drunk, hitting on them, actuallly sicken most of the workers, but they have to push it for better tips,

Has she looked at other jobs, perhaps going back to school for something else