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    RD125 Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Jan 26, 2010, 06:21 PM
    Should I break up with my girlfriend
    OK so my girlfriend and I have been together for 5 weeks, and I crazy love her, I haven't said this because its so soon. She is really distant and has admitted to having feelings for this guy who's hurt her before. She says she feels weird dating me because we are really good friends, and also that she felt pressured into the relationship. She says she really likes me and everything but that she likes to fight and argue and doesn't want to do that with me because I'm to nice. I've done nothing but nice and sweet things for her and I feel like she is going to leave me for a jackass. I also have suspisions that she may already be cheating on me with this guy. I don't want to get hurt but I honestly want to be with her.
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    Jan 26, 2010, 07:48 PM

    1. No chat speak please! Full formed words!

    2. How long have you known each other?

    3. how old are you guys... I mean she likes to fight and argue? If she loves the drama and that's why she doesn't want to be with you.. well I'd get out! Cause she'll find away to bring the drama.. life's too short for that s***!
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    Jan 26, 2010, 09:26 PM

    It is a sad fact of life that some women/girls have been treated badly by their mates. They get into a groove thinking that that is how relationships work, or, that they do not deserve a kind person who treats them well, or they do not feel deserving of the healthy attention.

    It is always easier to go back to what is familiar, and if she liked the confrontation with her ex as you said, she is accepting that as some sort of affection. You and I would see that as dysfunctional, and bass ackwards, but that is the type of relationship she is comfortable with.

    It isn't you, it's her. Find someone who is comfortable accepting, and giving, love.
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    Jan 28, 2010, 02:54 PM

    There are too many issues with this relationship for it to hold up. If you do decide to continue, there's a good chance you will just end up hurt anyway. I suggest leaving this woman. She is not in this for the long-run, and she's not taking it seriously. Show her the door now before she wipes her shoes on your emotions while she forces her way out.
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    Jan 31, 2010, 12:16 PM

    You're a rebound already, and after she admits to wanting another guy, why continue hoping for the best?

    I would be out of there.
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