[hemfot]

I had two friends lets say x and y at office we 3 were mutual friends and used to sit in the same cubicle at office. Dur to some reason my friendship with y got broken because of which I became very much possessive over x also and I didn't like she talking to y though I didn't ever stopped her from doing so. But eventually my dislike and frustratin of y started impacting my relationship with x . One day we both had a fight and I said something really bad to her. We both stopped talking to each other . It has been 2 months now. We both use to sit next to each other in the same cubicle at office. Because of my behaviour with x most of my colleagues have stopped talking to me. Now since y has left the company I tried to mend the broken friendship with x. but she is adamant and is saying she cannot treat me as a friend anymore. I tried my best to convince her but she is not at all listening to me. I'm feeling all alone at office and this is really impacting my performance. She know this very well but still she is not ready to treat me as a friend. I dono what to do. I explained her importance for me as a friend and also reminded her of the good times that we have shared a friend but all in vain. She agrees that I was a good friend to her but now I am no more her friend . Can anybody suggest what should I do?

[amicon]

Sometimes broken friendships can't be mended.

Your former friend has made it very clear that she won't reconsider so you can only move on and make new friends.

[roxypox]

I agree with Amicon, sometimes broken friendships can't be mended. I think you need to accept that.

What you can do.. For youself! is to realize why and how you behaved like you do. I'm guessing that the people who don't talk to you at work, see you as a person who might get jealous at them and that might be why they are avoiding you.

So instead of working hard to regain a friendship that is very likely never going to be regained, you can work on you and your jealousy issues.

[none12345]

I am confused as to why you are possesive over a "friend". Perhaps you are looking for a relationship not a friendship because friends just all hang out to have a good time and doesn't care who their friends hang out with.

[Gemini54]

I don't think that there is much you can do. You need to back off.

She's made her wishes very clear and it's important that you respect them. You can't make someone be your friend just because you want to.

Remember that in a work environment you must separate the personal from the professional. This is where you went wrong - the workplace is not a place for you to play out your personal dramas. If your work performance is suffering then it's not your ex-friend's fault. Take responsibility for it.

It sounds as if you behaved badly, and sadly this is a difficult lesson for you as people have judged you. Try to see it as a lesson. Reflect on what you would do differently and don't do it again.

[induwara123]

Some freindship cannot be manded but some can
I try to mend one freindhip but it cannot
Can anyone tell me what to do ?