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carepediemgirl · Jan 10, 2010, 05:07 PM

Well I am a 19 year old young woman who has never been kissed or in a relationship. I feel so lame and Ive wanted to be in a relationship since I was in high school. But I never found the right guy. On the same note though I don't feel like guys are attracted to me enough to get to know me. No one ever pursues me and its really frustrating when practically all my friends have boyfriends and I never have. I also know that I'm not unattractive, my friends and family always tell my that I'm really pretty and have a nice body but I still seem to be unnoticed. Im also a really friendly, kind and caring person. What is wrong with me? I need advice please!

liz28 · Jan 10, 2010, 06:41 PM

Maybe you it is toime for you to be a little aggressive. Question, if you see a guy that catches your eye what do you do? Do you wait for him to come or to you or do you just go for it?

If if wasn't for me going after I want my husband and I wouldn't be married today>let alone together. When I was younger I used to be shy until I realize that if I want things to happpen I have to make them happen for myself. So I started a new leaf by breaking out of my shyness and making things happen for myself. Maybe you should do the same.

bswc · Jan 11, 2010, 02:26 AM

I agree with Liz, I'm asian and the practical tradition is that girls think that the guys "should" chase after them if the "love" them. I'm definitely against this. How can you want someone to prove that they like you when you sit around doing nothing?

Other than that, I guess you can start looking for someone who has similar interest with you. Start with college clubs ( not clubbing), activities, sports... endless. It will come to you, why don't you prepare yourself well enough for a real time relationship while waiting for that person to appear?

carepediemgirl · Jan 11, 2010, 05:34 AM

Thanks for the comments! They're really helpful. You all are right, I think my biggest problem is that I have been sitting back and waiting for someone to come to me and it definitely does not work that way all the time. Im also usually too shy/reserved. I'll work on being more assertive and confident around guys. Wish me luck!

LJDK · Jan 11, 2010, 06:19 AM

There are few things as sexy as a girl making the 1st move.

bswc · Jan 12, 2010, 12:50 AM

Wish you all the best, maybe I can date you too :D If there's a nice girl out there being shy/reserved but deep down in her I know she's so passionate and yet unoticed by the males out there, I'll definitely make the move!