[deronette97]

There are 2 kids at my church, ones 13 md ones 10 there bros. they're also kind of my friends. My parents do like them that much because they think they're bad(which sometimes they are) my mom told me to tell them to leave me alone if they ever bother me then tell her about it. The problem is I'm not that mean to tell people that like I used to be. And I wish I was like my step sis ( she can be mean or tough if she needs to) what do I do??

[deronette97]

I'm hoping to get answers before January 10

[Jake2008]

If you see them only at church, do as your mother says. If they are bothering you, let her know and she'll deal with them. Mothers usually have pretty good instinct about things like this.

She might also be thinking you will run into them elsewhere too, and if they're trouble at church, they're probably trouble everywhere else too.

I would say to keep your distance from them. No need to be rude, but just say that your mother has said you aren't to hang around with them. No explanation necessary, that should get the message across.

[dontknownuthin]

It would be mean to walk up to them out of the blue and say, "my mom doesn't like you and we can't play together" but you don't have to do that. You can just be busy, or not feel like playing or whatever. If they are bothering you, just say, "excuse me" and walk away. You don't have to explain anything. Or if they approach you and ask you to play, say, "no thank you".

We all meet people in life who we want to avoid, and it's a tough skill to learn but a good one. It's not mean to avoid people who are not healthy for us to be around. While they might get hurt feelings, that's because of how they behaved, not because you reacted in an appropriate way. Good luck to you!

[cdad]

It could be that your mother knows more then she is saying and she is looking out for your best interest. But if they are your friends I can understand how difficult it can be to push them away. Maybe there is room for compromise in here. And your mom may even agree to it too. That is something that your going to have to think about and then discuss with your mother. If you want to hang with them and still keep withon your moms rules then ask if its OK so long as it is a supervised activity. Like at the church when adults are around and you make her a promise not to be alone with them at any time unsupervised. If they want you to sneak off you seem to have enough sense to say no at that point. They will get used to the boundries and you can still be friends without issues. Good Luck.