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Jan 3, 2010, 07:00 PM
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I am a virgin
Ok, so pretty much here is the jist.
My current girlfriend, has had sex with 2 other people before me.
I haven't had sex, and sadly like a lot of other people, my sex education comes from watching pornography.
What I am really worried about, is;
A. I think it might be awkward the first time.. anyway of avoiding this?)
B. what if I don't last long enough.. (is there any "exercises" I can do to last longer?)
C. How do you actually please a girl with your penis, Because they say, so many girls fake orgasms, and have never had an orgasm with a man. What are some techniques, I've looked everywhere for the answer to question, and I can't find it!
D. I have no idea what size condom to buy, or what type.. i.e. Thick? Thin? Studded? Etc etc
-I am not going to go buy a book, a hooker, or a video on education...
Those are all what people have told me. I'm looking for honest advice,
Mostly to B and C (more C) but answers to any would be so helpful, Thank you.
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Jan 3, 2010, 07:00 PM
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And I can't edit my post, Also, please don't laugh.
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Experts
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Jan 3, 2010, 07:11 PM
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Expert
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Jan 3, 2010, 07:15 PM
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How old are you simplepine?
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Jan 3, 2010, 07:16 PM
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Thank you for those, it helps, anyone else have answers to the other questions? :(
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Jan 3, 2010, 07:16 PM
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Originally Posted by j_9
how old are you simplepine?
19
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Jan 3, 2010, 07:22 PM
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So you are awkward, most people are with a person the first time,
Having sex and making love are to completely different things, learning that foreplay and making the other happy long before the sex starts is the most important thing.
And what one lady likes is not the same as another, one method for one, may not work at all on another.
Pleasue comes from emotional connections and hours of talk about what each other likes and what each can do to improve
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Computer Expert and Renaissance Man
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Jan 3, 2010, 07:23 PM
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Ok, what you need is to pay attention to your girlfriend. Concentrate on pleasing her. Especially if she knows your situation (and I see no reason not to tell her).
Sex is not about sticking a penis into a vagina. Sex is about two people sharing the intimacy and pleasure their bodies can give. You tell us you are a virgin, but you don't indicate whether you have been intimate with her previously. If you haven't go slow, learn what gives each other pleasure, don't rush to insertion. If you have been intimate, there work up to it, building the sensations until you are both ready for insertion.
One more point to add, NO ONE should be engaging in sexual intercourse unless they are fully ready to have a child together.
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Jan 3, 2010, 07:27 PM
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Originally Posted by ScottGem
Ok, what you need is to pay attention to your girlfriend. concentrate on pleasing her. Especially if she knows your situation (and I see no reason not to tell her).
Sex is not about sticking a penis into a vagina. Sex is about two people sharing the intimacy and pleasure their bodies can give. you tell us you are a virgin, but you don't indicate whether you have been intimate with her previously. if you haven't go slow, learn what gives each other pleasure, don't rush to insertion. if you have been intimate, there work up to it, building the sensations until you are both ready for insertion.
One more point to add, NO ONE should be engaging in sexual intercourse unless they are fully ready to have a child together.
I feel a like less of a man, that I haven't had sex and she has.
We have be inimate, but not to that extent. And I don't plan on rushing into it, its just that if the opertunity shows itself I want to be ready :(
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Jan 3, 2010, 07:29 PM
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Originally Posted by simplepine
A. I think it might be awkward the first time..anyway of avoiding this?)
Unfortunately, it will be awkward your first time, but if your girlfriend knows this, she should be patient with you.
Originally Posted by simplepine
B. what if i don't last long enough..(is there any "exercises" i can do to last longer?)
You may not your first time, but experience is everything. Foreplay is very important.
Originally Posted by simplepine
C. How do you actually please a girl with your penis, Because they say, so many girls fake orgasms, and have never had an orgasim with a man. What are some techniques, I've looked everywhere for the answer to question, and i can't find it!
This comes with practice as well. Let her tell you what she likes.
Originally Posted by simplepine
D. I have no idea what size condom to buy, or what type.. i.e. Thick? thin? studded? etc etc
This too comes with experience, you try them all out, see what ones you and she like best.
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Computer Expert and Renaissance Man
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Jan 3, 2010, 07:53 PM
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Originally Posted by J_9
You and Cpatty have the same IP address....wanna fill us in?
Can you say troll?
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Jan 4, 2010, 10:23 AM
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Thank you very much, all of you, This helps me Tremendously
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Computer Expert and Renaissance Man
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Jan 4, 2010, 10:30 AM
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Originally Posted by simplepine
thank you very much, all of you, This helps me Tremendously
We are still waiting for an answer about who Cpatty is!
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Jan 4, 2010, 10:39 AM
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Originally Posted by ScottGem
Can you say troll?
No its my brother who showed me this site, we live together, and I figured I can post here as well.
Instead of making a post under his name, I can make a new username so they don't think that he is a virgin, etc etc
I didn't think that 2 usernames per IP is against the rules. Sorry if I made you angry.
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Computer Expert and Renaissance Man
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Jan 4, 2010, 10:41 AM
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Its not against the rules, but it is too often abused by people. That's why we question it when it happens. Thanks for the explanation.
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Jan 4, 2010, 10:45 AM
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Originally Posted by ScottGem
Its not against the rules, but it is too often abused by people. That's why we question it when it happens. Thanks for the explanation.
OK.
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Junior Member
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Mar 20, 2010, 07:43 PM
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My first time was with someone more experienced also. It started awkward but I think the key to all of that is foreplay.. not only does foreplay get you in the mood, but it also makes you feel more comfortable which will help you in moving how you feel and not holding back. And something that helps with my current boyfriend is that he masturbates and gets the first "nut" out of the way first.. I don't know exactly how that works being a female and all but the second time around after him already getting off, makes it last a lot longer than it does before he masturbates.. hope it helps
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Mar 28, 2010, 03:36 PM
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I was also 19 my first time... with a girl who had been with far more than 2 guys... I just told her I was a virgin, sure it's embarrassing, but it took a lot of pressure off me.
I'm sure I still sucked the first time... but practice makes perfect.
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Mar 30, 2010, 12:19 AM
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I think that the thing that you need to do is accept that you're new at it and that it may not all be bells and whistles the first time. It may comfort you to know that sex can also be awkward and unsatisfying - even for the very experienced.
Try to focus on the sensations and the fact that you like your GF, rather than the techniques you're using - good sex is about connection not about positions. Remember, porn is just a fantasy, it has very little connection to reality.
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