[stars_1122]

OK so we were going out for 4 months.. and the begnng was great.. but then he got another job.. and sometimes we didn't tlk but like 2 min in the entire day... so I would get upset.. and text him.. but he wouldn't reply. And I would get angry.. he said the reasoon he broke up was bcs I complained a lot and I wasn't happy with him.. I felt like he was avoiding me.. of course he denied it.. but for some reason I was blinded and I love him so much.. I saw him like to a month becaue he worked a lot!. I'm 18 his 19.. I pictured my life with him and all.. I had never been in love.. and he broke up with me dec 25 09.. yes it was harsh..

He gave the b.s that he though I was to good for him... that I needed someone that had time for me and treated me like I deserved to be treated.. that anyone would love to date me and a lot of things...

I don't know if I should believe him or not..

I cried alottt and couldn't stop!

2 days later, he calls.. and acts like nothng happened... he tried to make up a conversation... I was really serious.. but inside I was extreamly happy he called!

We tlkd for about 10 min.. Then he texted me 3 min after we hung up . And said " i love you".. I don't understand him..

If he broke up with me, doesn't that mean he doestn like me anymore?

I told him that if he really loved me then why he let me go?. that if he really does want to let me go to stop making it hard on myself because I couldn't take it anymore.. I couldn't get over him at all.. I still cant.

Did I do the riight thing? I really don't know how, or if I need to get over him.. or if I should try to work things out.. I don't know what to do :(:confused:

[jaime90]

Love is commitment. Since neither of you were committed to each other- no, you did not truly love each other. True love endures all things.
He had a job that required most of his time, and you were basing the relationship on how often you got to talk to him, or how often he was physically present. This tells me that although you may FEEL like you loved him, your love couldn't live a week if you didn't talk to him, or see him, which means it wasn't really love, it was romantic feelings.

You need to get over him, and learn how not to be so clingy, and to respect the lifestyle that your partner has chosen. (I'm engaged to a Marine.) You can get over him, by not picking up his phone calls, and not contacting him. Don't even call him to yell at him. If he calls you, pick up the phone and tell him you don't want to talk. If he calls again, hang up. If he comes to visit, tell him behind a closed door that you don't want to see him. If he stays, or comes back, call the police. It may sound extreme, but you need to let the guy know that you mean business, and that you are moving on with your life.

[artlady]

[QUOTE]and he broke up with me dec 25 09.[/QUOTE
I can only guess but I am thinking you didn't get a Christmas present right?

There are many people who break up right before Christmas so they don't have to spring for a gift.

Either way,he is playing with your head and that is never acceptable

Let this one go or you will simply have more of the same.The best indication of future behavior is past behavior.