[enibaby]

Things that a man should do for her wife to know he love her

[Boricua1]

This depends on the person.. there is no set standard or procedure or protocol.. ot varies.. but a lot of it has to do with the effort, or that person's desire to please his wife... some men are not very vocal, or emotional, but their actions show love, like in being dependable, and caring rather than saying "I love you", or by making sure he sacrfices for his wife, if he isn't very affectioante... it all depends...

Some people have certain images or ideations about what constitutes love.. but this really just depends upon each individual... I personally hate getting flowers and candy and stuff.. I'd much rather that a husband be someone who listens to me and shares my interests.. compatibility is key for me... and balance...

A good way to see if you think your husband is living up to your standards or not is think about something you would like for him to do.. and tell him.. If he does it or at keats tries, then he probably loves you... don't leave him to guess.. he may guess wrong, and then what?.

It's like giving a test without telling the person the subject.. most people would fail... in fact whatever you do don't "test" someone's love..

But for the most part.. "Love" is relative to the two people involved in the marriage.. they must communicate... and compromise for each other and sacrifice and be unselfish with each other, and support eacxh other there should be a bablance.. when you are married you are no longer only responsible or accountable for yourself... this will show if there is love...

[Jake2008]

Love is in the simple things. It's having a partner who respects you, and shows that respect. It is a partner who will listen to you without you having to ask him to, and take what you say seriously. It's the unspoken times, being held until you fall asleep. It's a surprise night out or special dinner you make, 'just because'. It's never forgetting her birthday, and your anniversary, and making those days as special as she is to you.

Love is realizing that it is what you show, not what you say, or don't say, that will build, and keep building on a good relationship.

It is also being comfortable enough that you don't have to question anything before you say or do, because you wouldn't hurt her for the world, and nor would she.

Love is freedom, and respect, in enough quantities that each person grows on their own, with their own interests, knowing the other is there to encourage, and share in both success and failure.

Love is accepting eachothers shortcomings, moody days, mistakes, and fender benders, with humour. If you can laugh together, play together, and really enjoy eachother's company, and wake up for more the next day, that is love.

Having been married 33 years myself, keep it simple, but keep it truthful. Laugh and love a lot, and you'll be on your way to wondering why you needed to ask the question in the first place.

Work hard, it's worth it.

[Devorameira]

Jake2008 really said it all!