[kilroy23]

During the 2 months I was here out of the 3 she was pregnant, I believe I caused her miscarriage. I was not the father, she cheated on me. So I wanted to forgive her and help her out. I kept asking question about the father which I think stress her out so much she had a miscarriage. Am I to blame for the miscarriage?

And now that she is no longer pregnant she still wants to remain friends with the person she cheated on me with. Should I be worried?

[Misshersomuch]

I don't know if you should be worried, neither do I have enough knowledge about miscarriages to say much about that.

I will say, however, that I were to have a GF that cheated on me and got pregnant, and then wanted to keep the child, I doubt that I would've sticked around, really. Not as anything more than a friend though, depends on what she would've said to me.

If she told me that she wants to remain in contact with the father, I know for sure I would've just left her, really. I mean, don't you feel like it's wrong?

First, she cheats on you.
Then, she gets pregnant and wants to have the baby.
Then, she appearantly (from what I got from your post, anyway) wants you to act like a father to the child, but at the same time she wants to have contact with the father.

Does that feel right?

Not to be cynical or anything, but I believe you deserve better than this.

[Fr_Chuck]

Her doctor will know perhaps why, was it a medical problem, We can't tell you.

It sounds like she still has feelings for someone else, perhaps time to move back and give it some time for her to decide what she wants

[kilroy23]

Thanks so much for your replies.
I do not have anywhere to go. And I feel it was my fault. I want to give her all my and just rot in a hole till I die. She has no car so I am going to give her mine. I feel as if I need to go to prison

[Young_Cardinal]

Good god kilroy, don't talk to this girl anymore!
This is probably the best advice anyone can give u

[Misshersomuch]

Listen up.

I can understand you feeling guilt because of this, and feeling down.

But there's nothing you can do. Okay? I know this might sound harsh, but it's the truth.

It's really kind of you to want to help her, and if you decide to - go on, but don't think of her as more than a friend right now.

And giving her your car isn't a very good idea.

Who was the one who cheated?
Who was the one got pregnant with an other man?
Who was the one who wanted to keep the child and contact with the other father?

This is all actions that's really rejecting you. You shouldn't want her back at all after all of this, her actions speak for themselves.
She doesn't love you, not enough anyway.

When she's not showing you love - at all - why should you show her love? To get hurt? Rejected? Depressed?

You're not to blame her. You haven't done anything wrong.

No, you need to think about yourself. Move on. It's for the best.

[Cat1864]

These threads need to be merged.

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