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    Dec 19, 2009, 02:44 AM
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    My boyfriend broke up with me after a 9 month relationship of being with him. He says he is still in love with me but has felt that we aren't connected anymore. Is this just a phase in our relationship?

    But I went through the same phase but it passed, will this pass for him?
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    Dec 19, 2009, 03:05 AM
    He broke up with you,he feels there is no connection,so the relationship is over. Hard as it is you need to accept this and move on with your life.
    Please read the stickies at the top of the relationship page for advice on how to handle a breakup.
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    Dec 19, 2009, 03:30 AM
    Hi, raverchick!

    Yes, this is the third thread that you've started about basically the same thing. Please keep it to your first thread.

    It takes some patience to use this site. The people who might be able to help you the best might not be logged-on to the site and might even be asleep.

    Thanks!
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    Dec 19, 2009, 03:49 AM
    All relationships go through phases...

    Usually about 3 to 4 months the lust factor that originally brought you together starts to fade and one walks away... if not about 6 to 9 months you have gotten to know each other and spent time together,about this time,you decide if you want to go further into the relationship or if its worth the trouble.

    It would seem that your boyfriend has reached this point and has decided that the relationship for him is over..

    For your own emotional health I would avoid an on off relationship.

    Perhaps this time,you should take control of the situation and move on.
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    Dec 19, 2009, 09:13 AM
    It could very well just be a phase in the relationship. He may need a little time away from it to be sure about it. Give him the space and time to think on things. And give him the chance to miss you. During this time, don't concentrate on it too much, you need to think of it as a welcome step in your relationship. If he comes back to you, then you will know he truly wants to be together. And if not, then you know it would have never lasted anyway.
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    Dec 19, 2009, 12:20 PM

    Leave him alone, and enjoy doing your own thing, so he can reach his decision about what he wants without your influence.

    Time will tell if its just a phase, or a real break up.

    According to him though, it's a break up, so don't hold your breath thinking his mind will change, or give up your dignity, and self respect, thinking you can change his mind.
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    Dec 19, 2009, 03:29 PM

    Break up DOES NOT = love.
    He does not love you. He FEELS like he loves you. But love is not a mere feeling. It is commitment.
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