[S_R_B]

We are the family of four, my mother, father, me & a younger brother.
My father is doing an accounts job for over 25 yrs. We also had a readymade garment shop which I look after. My mother is a housewife & brother is studying.
Our problem is that my father gets angry on very small things & that too often?also when he is angry he fogets his surroundings & goes out of control. He shouts whether you answer him or keep quite. Also he goes attacking if his temper loose further. He starts throwing things or hurt himself. Although very rarely he hit other person but his anger is too loud that sometimes we panicked. We don't know what d basic problem is?
I'm afraid that he has BP & Diabetes.
Also it's a traumatic situation for me as he gets angry on me even in public. I fear about my future as I don't know how long I will be able to tolerate him.
My mother also lives in fear. We hv tried to understand him but in vain. I don't know what to do & how to make him calm. Please help!

[benjdeguerto]

Try to talk to him.. in a good way..

[Jake2008]

When he is calm, has your mother tried to talk to him? The best way to get him help is to get him to a Doctor for a physical checkup, and provide the Doctor with some information to help make a diagnosis, or a referral to a specialist.

It is one thing to lose it with family out of earshot of anybody else. It is quite another not to be able to control yourself from angry outbursts in public.

I would be very concerned too. I hope you can get him to a Doctor.

[jmjoseph]

S_R_B, I am sure it is quite embarrassing for you when he yells at you in public. It makes for a very nervous, timid existence.

Is your father a religious man? Does he have an elder, or someone that he respects completely? Try to use whatever religious reference you can pertaining to his anger. And get this person who he respects, to talk to him about trying to control his temper.

But most importantly, he needs to be seen by a doctor. He needs a checkup, and a mental evaluation.

Talk to him when he is in a good mood.

How is the girlfriend search going?

THAT will make your life a little more pleasant.

[dontknownuthin]

I would recommend a medical check up, and perhaps call his physician in advance of the appointment and tell him your concerns, without your Dad's knowledge if necessary.

Sometimes extreme changes in behavior have a physical cause underlying, such as the onset of alzheimers, or less serious but treatable issues like uncontrolled depression and anxiety.

Best wishes.