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usertalkreal · Nov 28, 2009, 02:02 PM

Well me and this girl has said that we should take sometime apart from each other because she has some things in her life to take care of cool,me as well.On thurday and today is sat I have not talk to her.We went out on wed to a movie with some friends.It seemed like she was done with me the whole day.Like she did not talk to me the whole night.So when we got home she talk me that she was talking to a guy and she said it might no work out.She said I still want to talk to you. So when I got home she said let her get her things back together and we might try and get things rolling oneday.Me I tried to tell her not to go away from me and don't go to a find a new man and she said I won't.So she said I love when she got off the phone.Well the next day when I called her she would not pick up the phone so I call her home phone and she pick up,but she did not seem to want to talk to me like I would ask her stuff but she would say I'm sorry I'm just tried so I said I would let her go.So I called back 3 times that day and she did not pick up and now 2 days later I did not call her or has she called me.Should I call her and tell her that I understand you need time and if you get a new men I'm all for it.I still want to be her friend and I love her kids and they love me.What should I do?

jaime90 · Nov 28, 2009, 02:07 PM

If you're having a break, let your yes be yes and your no be no. It seems as though you should've talked through more what this break entails. If you were supposed to be focusing on your own selves separate from each other, it is unfair for you to be getting into her own business... Don't contact her again, and begin working on your own self, like you guys both agreed you would. If you both end up together, awesome! If not, there are other fish in the sea.

usertalkreal · Nov 28, 2009, 02:35 PM

Originally Posted by jaime90

If you're having a break, let your yes be yes and your no be no. It seems as though you should've talked through more what this break entails. If you were supposed to be focusing on your own selves seperate from each other, it is unfair for you to be getting into her own buisness...Don't contact her again, and begin working on your own self, like you guys both agreed you would. If you both end up together, awesome! If not, there are other fish in the sea.

I hear you.It's so hard right now because I wish I could hug her one more time and I can't!!

amicon · Nov 28, 2009, 03:02 PM

Sorry you're hurting,but the best thing is to not contact her and go and do your own thing as best as you can.
Have you read the stickies at the top of the relationship page? There's good advice there for this kind of situation.
Keep busy and look after yourself.

Devorameira · Nov 28, 2009, 03:23 PM

I know it's really painful, but you'd do best if you go the "no contact" route. You should just worry about you. Go out with friends and try a casual date. Make like you're happy and doing well and she might just see (or hear) that you are surviving/thriving without her. Sometimes that's all it takes to get the lady back. Sometimes it doesn't work at all.

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