[sgoo]

Can you actually fall in love with two peolple at the same time?
I think its happening to me!

I have been with my boyfriend for 10 months and for the first 5 or 6 everything went great... we were planning on getting married next year... I couldn't ask for a better guy. But a couple a months ago he changed his mind about the wedding and, even though we decided to to wait and get married later, now I'm not sure if I'm happy; his overall behaviour towards me is different. So A couple of weeks ago my ex called me and after a few days of us talking with the intention of building a friendship he said he wants me back. I love my boyfriend but he shows me nothing but lack of interest and makes feel neglected all the time. He is faithful though and he doesn't drink or party and he is always at home or working which is kind of a big deal for me...
As for mi ex... I love him too... he was always a sweet amazing guy who treated me like a princess and gave me nothing but love and support... but he was a drinker.
I tried talking to my boyfriend about this but he just doesn't listen so Im seriously thinking of leaving him for mi ex...


On the other hand there were a lot of reasons I broke up with him in the first place so... wouldnt it be kind of silly to go back to all that?



Help!!

[LJDK]

Indeed it would be silly. There is a reason people are in your past. If you are seriously considering marriage now would be a good time to make it clear that communication is vital for a relaionship to survive.

If your boyfriend does not want to work on that, tell him you are leaving. But for the love of all that is holy, not for you ex. Seriously.

My opinion is that people who return to an ex have no self respect.

[Ithappenstoall]

You left your ex for a reason , and the only reason you would go back to him is because is has contacted you and you have no other "alternative". Don't forget he is an ex for a reason, whether it ended badly or just because it coudlnt work out he is your ex.
You either make things clear with you boyfriend and figure thins out or let him be and be single... but do not date you ex again as he is not the right person for you , and has not changed... clearly since you still state that he is a drinker

[amicon]

It sounds like your relationship with your current boyfriend is not going anywhere so unless you can sit down and have a proper discussion and agree to working on your issues,you shouldn't be together.
Your ex is an ex for a reason-why stumble down memory lane?
Personally I think you need to be single and find out what you want and need from life.