[debniet]

I know my birth mothers name but she wouldn't tell me my birth fathers name. I would like to know

[ChihuahuaMomma]

Can you contact your birth mother and ask her?

[Synnen]

Not sure if it was edited in or not---but she wouldn't tell.

How old are you?

[MsMollie]

I was dealing with this same situation for the past few years. I (unfortunately) knew my birth mom, but she refused for many years to tell me my fathers last name. One day, almost a year ago, I made it very clear via an email to her that I had the right to make the decision on whether I wanted my birth dad in my life and she had to respect that. 4 months later she emailed back with his last name. It's worth asking her one more time, just make sure to be a bit more firm.

[Amiii]

I was basically the same, my mother and father split up before I was born and we don't keep in contact with him atall, all I want is my dad. But sometimes I ask myself this question, and I'll ask you - 'would you really want to keep in contact with a man who left because he didn't want you, do you really think he would have changed his mind, because if you or I were unwanted in the first place, why would we be wanted now?'

[Amiii]

So don't go looking for him too soon, think about it for a bit, in case he lashes out, or says he doesn't want you in his life and breaks your heart, because if its just you alone, your no threat.

[Synnen]

Again, the age question stands: If the OP is under 18, then ALL searches need to go through his adoptive parents.