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    Oct 31, 2009, 10:45 AM
    He confuses me
    My ex and I split up six months now
    Yet he won't let me be... I caught him cheat with a next woman. I left them to get on with it.. Now six months later he's asking me to go back to himbut he still wants to also see the woman I caught him cheatin with... Plus he's still seeing his babymother
    He said he love's me but he don't make any sense to me
    He never ask me for anything like money etc I'm also close with his family. Which the other woman is not in fact his sister and I went on holiday together and she was at a family b'day showing our holiday pictures and when his male members of the family commented on how pretty I was he became defencesive... His sister told me he shouted and stormed out the room.. When we were together he always said I made his head hurt and he can't stand it cause he's so jealous of me.. I recall once out the blue he slapped me in the face saying I was to pretty.. Now I've not bothered with him he won't let me be.. Its hurting real bad as I don't know what it is he wants from me and I have made it clear I will not be sharing him... Help help pleasssssssssse
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    Oct 31, 2009, 10:53 AM

    This man is jealous,angry,abusive and violent... change your number,keep no contact,if he continues to try and contact you go to the police and ask them for advice on how to get a protection order,or a barring order against him.

    I assume he is not stupid,so I'm sure he will get the message.

    You do not need a man like this in your life,you deserve better... he is going from women to women,is he using condoms?

    STD's and STI's are not just for special people... there for everybody!

    Take care of yourself and fight for your right to be free of this man and this hassel in your life.
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    Oct 31, 2009, 11:04 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by redhed35 View Post
    this man is jealous,angry,abusive and violent.....change your number,keep no contact,if he continues to try and contact you go to the police and ask them for advice on how to get a protection order,or a barring order against him.

    i assume he is not stupid,so im sure he will get the message.

    you do not need a man like this in your life,you deserve better...he is going from women to women,is he using condoms?

    STD's and STI's are not just for special people...there for everybody!

    take care of yourself and fight for your right to be free of this man and this hassel in your life.
    I must be honest no we didn't use condoms as he was my partner for 2 half years, before I caught him with next woman...
    Like I said I left him six months ago
    I don't know if he used condoms with the others
    I did think of changing my number but no I won't as my number is a business number, I have changed my home landline
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    Oct 31, 2009, 11:09 AM

    Be firm with this guy.

    Keep no contact and he will soon get bored and move on to the next women.

    Perhaps you might consider getting a health check just to be on the safe side.

    Knowing now that he may have put your health in danger should be enough incentive to keep him well away from you.
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    Oct 31, 2009, 11:18 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by redhed35 View Post
    be firm with this guy.

    keep no contact and he will soon get bored and move on to the next women.

    perhaps you might consider getting a health check just to be on the safe side.

    knowing now that he may have put your health in danger should be enough incentive to keep him well away from you.

    Like I said I left him six months ago
    As soon as I caught him cheatin that was the first thing I did trust me;)
    I have had nc with this man... He just up out of the blue brought himself to my business place... Which I had him removed but he waited for me at my home again I had him removed so he emails an texts me call my phone at all hours...

    Just to show him how serious I was I told his bbymother about the next woman I gave her phone number of the next woman... All he did was laugh down the phone at me then later that evening he text me saying I belong to him
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    Oct 31, 2009, 11:24 AM

    Lovehurts... I strongly suggest you to go to the police and voice your concerns...

    Other posters will come and post advice.

    Really this guy has gotten out of control and does not understand the concept of 'its over'

    You sound like a smart women.

    Tell your family and friends what is going on in case he becomes aggressive and someone can help you in real time should you need it...

    I know my post may seem over the top,however,your problem is not the first of its kind on this site and others have had serious problems with ex boyfriends.

    The fact that he thinks you 'belong' to him is a serious red flag that should not be ignored.
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    Oct 31, 2009, 11:51 AM

    I agree,this should be brought to the attention of the police. He sounds like a potential threat.
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    Oct 31, 2009, 12:52 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by amicon View Post
    I agree,this should be brought to the attention of the police. He sounds like a potential threat.
    I have reported him... I've given is address and his family back me 100percent
    His sister told its best he stay away from me, But all he did was cried she said he knows he as messed up big time and he just wants to make it right... I know he may well be genuine in what he's saying and would like but I don't want to hear it...
    Because the truth is I do still have feelings for him and I know if I was to give in and speak with him we would end up in bed and then I'd be back to were we left off I don't want it so I know its best for me to stay away... My friends say I'm being mean to him but I don't feel that way I feel its for my best interest I stay away I know how he's feeling but this isn't about his feelins it's about what I want and that's to continue to stay away.. I have drop contacy with his sister also for now until I feel he gets the message:(
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    Oct 31, 2009, 12:58 PM

    He is possessive and jealous, but above all dangerous and violent. Don't take chances, protect yourself by telling as many male people as possible, including the cops.
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    Oct 31, 2009, 01:03 PM
    You must let those feelings go-why care for a creep? You deserve better.
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    Oct 31, 2009, 01:06 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by talaniman View Post
    He is possessive and jealous, but above all dangerous and violent. Don't take chances, protect yourself by telling as many male people as possible, including the cops.
    I have reported him... I've given is address and his family back me 100percent
    His sister told its best he stay away from me, But all he did was cried she said he knows he as messed up big time and he just wants to make it right... I know he may well be genuine in what he's saying and would like but I don't want to hear it...
    Because the truth is I do still have feelings for him and I know if I was to give in and speak with him we would end up in bed and then I'd be back to were we left off I don't want it so I know its best for me to stay away... My friends say I'm being mean to him but I don't feel that way I feel its for my best interest I stay away I know how he's feeling but this isn't about his feelins it's about what I want and that's to continue to stay away.. I have drop contacy with his sister also for now until I feel he gets the message
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    Oct 31, 2009, 01:15 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by amicon View Post
    You must let those feelings go-why care for a creep? You deserve better.
    Because 2 and half years meant something to my life
    Clearly it didn't mean S--t 2him
    But I know I still have feelings for him and I isn't going to deny what I feel
    But I will work with it and deal with it and control it
    I control my feelings not my feelings controls me
    Hence me keeping it real by having nc
    Yes he is a low life creep, but that don't mean I have stoop to his level
    I will continue to love him and all those like him
    I'm not god so I cannot judge him or anyone else like him
    But I can walk away which I have done and I have taken steps to protect myself
    However thank you all for your advices
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    Oct 31, 2009, 01:21 PM

    Get a restraining order against him.

    You don't need this in your life.

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