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    sara84 Posts: 8, Reputation: 1
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    Oct 28, 2009, 05:05 AM
    Married to a musician
    Hello,

    I have married an ex musician who is working on a CD to get back into the music market and he is very good. He has told me about his life as a musician and the girls who offer his sex, he has told me about his past and now even though we have an amazing life and that we are together all the time I am worried that once his CD hits off he will start sleeping with other girls.

    I know that he is not cheating on me now and that he only goes out with his friends once a week I am worried about him cheating on me in the future and I don't know why even though I trust him blindly as well as he trusts me blindly.

    Any advise?
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    Oct 28, 2009, 05:27 AM

    It sounds like your feeling a little insecure about your husbands potential success..

    If you trust him really there should be no problem.

    Look at successful musicians who have been married for years,with no affairs to their name.

    Have to talked to him about your concerns?

    How about you? Are you successful in your life?
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    Oct 28, 2009, 05:40 AM
    Trust is the biggest concern here, so you are going to have to deal with it. Those women who are swooning over him are the ones who buy the CD's , and go to the concerts.

    You can't have it both ways. If you want him to be happy and successful, you're going to have to trust him completely.

    You just might ruin your relationship if you don't.

    Have you considered traveling with him? Maybe be his manager? Or some sort of support position?

    If he hasn't given you any reason to NOT trust him, give him a chance to prove his fidelity.
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    Oct 28, 2009, 06:07 AM
    I am a successful PR in an investment company and I do give him all the support I have and I encourge him everyday to finish his CD even if he needed money someday in order to finish I will be more than happy to give it to him.

    When we first got married he he didn't want me to work and that if all goes well he wants me to work with him.

    I know that I have no reason to worry but I guess its just the fear or something new :)
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    Oct 28, 2009, 06:10 AM

    Thank you all for the answers you have given me :)
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    Oct 28, 2009, 06:11 AM

    Enjoy this new adventure together...

    It's a great experience for you BOTH,don't let worry and fear colour a new beginning.
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