[blinded]

I would like to know, if a man is married, but starts a relationship with someone else, and tells this other person that he loves her. But can't leave his family now because of financial issues, do you think he could be telling the truth or just taking her for a ride.

[redhed35]

I would say YES.

He's married and off limits, he's cheating on his wife,and most likely sleeping with her too.

Married men rarely leave their wife for the other woman.

Christmas is coming,will he be with his family or you,if its just for monetary reasons,he should have no problem leaving them,but I bet he's not.

Don't be his easy shag on the side,don't fall for sweet nothings and empty promises...

Walk away, and don't help him cheat.

[blinded]

But that's the thing they don't sleep together, he has left his wife at least 3 times to be with her, but then the guilt of the child, always gets to him

[amicon]

I'm sorry my dear, but whatever excuses for staying with his FAMILY he s giving you are as ancient as the Egyptian pyramids if not older.
He s cheating on his wife and he s married so step away and date single men.

[redhed35]

Unless he has left his wife and started divorce proceedings, this is a never ending circle.

And just because he says they are not sleeping together does not mean its true.

He is cheating atfer all..

He's lying to someone.

Children cope and adapt with divorce.

Thousands of children cope every year, the pity is they get used as go betweens and leverage between the sparing parents, and excuses to mistresses.

[blinded]

She knows what is happening is wrong, but it's taking the first step to leave him

[redhed35]

The first step is to say its over.

And do not contact him again,if he makes contact,ignore it.

Simple as that.

The next step is to start enjoying your life,and taking care with who you date.

Dating is fun,and is supposed to be about getting to know the other person BEFORE the relationship.

Dating is where you ask the big questions,like are you married?

[blinded]

That's one hard step :)

But a necessary one I suppose

[redhed35]

Yes it is hard,but the fall out from an affair is harder,for everyone.

There are 6 billion people in the world,plenty of nice single men and women.

Have a look around.

I have no doubt this married man,will have a replacemant bed in no time at all.

[destiny09]

Take it from someone who is or should I say has been the wife in this situation.

Deep down she will know what he is up to but cannot prove anything to actually leave him. What he is doing to you both is wrong and selfish, he is interested in ONLY his needs.

The only time he will say he has left his wife for you is when she has enough proof to kick him out, it will be her decision not his. You are then faced with him begging her, because he will, to take him back. So at any point he will be gone again and your left as the bit on the side.

Do her and yourself a big favour and leave him alone!!

[destiny09]

Also form the minute you found out he was married why didn't you just leave then?

[blinded]

She actually knows that she has had an affair, he told her about it??

[destiny09]

Is that what he told you or the truth. For a man that cheats can you believe him??

[blinded]

It is the truth, I know, the more people that talk to me about this, the more I am starting to believe that he is a huge A&&hole

[destiny09]

Don't mean to sound harsh, its difficult being the one being cheated on although in a sorts you are too. He is cheating on you both and I can guarantee he is feeding you both a pack of lies

[blinded]

I can only imagine, it's such a screwed up situation. Why do we do this to ourselves, stupid, stupid, stupid

[talaniman]

Tell your friend how stupid she is.