[Mzzsashavashti]

I think my fiancé is hot… he even has a great personality… and he fits into my crazy family. I love him to death but sometimes (key word…sometimes) I’m not sexually attracted to him. Is there a reason for my lack of lust for him?

[Cat1864]

There can be several reasons. Stress and hormones can cause the libido to take a back seat. Boredom if you are doing the same things over and over again. Not having enough alone time or having to reign in sexually related thoughts for awhile (in other words over-controlling your impulses). Even the stress of getting married or fears about the marriage.

Other causes can be health related, yours and his. Even family issues and concerns can put the libido on hold.

Sometimes just discussing how you are feeling with your mate can help. Taking some time, relaxing and allowing yourself to feel sexy instead of caught in all the other roles life puts us in and making yourself feel good can have a big affect on how you feel about sex.

[Gemini54]

I think that what you're feeling sounds relatively natural. The libido is a complex and wonderful thing. It often can't just be switched on and switched off at will. All sorts of things can affect it.

Sometimes you're hot, sometimes you're not.

Be aware of what the triggers are and be prepared to talk to him about it.