[michelley]

Hi, my and my boyfriend broke up recently and I just don't understand this.
We were the perfect couple and everyone said so, we were only together for a small period, 3 months but it seemed like so much longer.
He's 23 and he never had a girlfriend before me so I knew I had to take it easy with him because he's never been there before where as I have, I was engaged before him, my last relationship was really stupid and after we broke up I ended up overdosing on pills, I have learnt from that experience and I feel I have moved on from that.
Neil who just broke up with me, he loved me more than life y'know, he really did, this is why I don't understand, we got on so well, we were gluded to each other the whole time. We just argue, about stupid pety stuff, I know it was always me getting upset or moody about nothing and I feel this whole problem is my fault, but he kept saying it wasn't and he just said its difficult, he said it's not because he doesn't love me and he doesn't want to be with me, so what is it? If you love someone and want to be with them aren't they worth fighting with?
We were perfectly fine on Saturday, we had so much fun and was more in love than ever, we ended up not so much arguing but me being upset about something again on Sunday and I went home early (I normally spend the whole weekend with him) things happened Sunday night, I said a few bad things one including that he wasn't my boyfriend anymore and I didn't know how to make that up to him, and we agreed to meet up on Monday night after he finished work, he just didn't show up, turned his phone off and went to the pub with him dad. I ended up going to his really late at night to sort this out once and for all and he just said he didn't know what to say to me, he couldn't even tell e that we were breaking up, I had to say it to try and work it all out out, he just said it wasn't my fault or his, and he wouldn't let me leave until I promised I wouldn't think it's my fault, but I said I couldn't do that.
I don't know what to do, everyone in my family is so shocked, it's so out of character for him and no-one understand what's going on, should I try and fight for him, should I give him time, what I don't know what to do, I love him so much and I would go to the end of the world for him because he's who I want to be with and that's what I thought he wanted too.

[wap]

This is a difficult one. It sounds like he doesn't know what he wants. Maybe because you get upset often he feels bad about this, I get quite easily upset sometimes too, and my ex said that when we were breaking up. Maybe he doesn't know how to handle you getting upset, guys can be like that! The fact that he has never had a girlfriend before means he probably doesn't know how to handle situations. Also 3 months is not that long maybe he feels things were a bit too full on for him, and he needs to think.

[talaniman]

It is his first relationship and maybe he is a little overwhelmed. You do sound like a handful, no disrespect intended. Give him space to catch his breath and think so he can figure what he should do. What he wants to do. Leave him alone to make this decision. As for you do other things you enjoy and learn to live without him. Yeah I know I'm asking a lot, but I think you should take the time for you to think also, as right now you could push him farther away. If he really wants you let him come get you. If he doesn't you have to accept it and move on. Please don't call him at all for now.

[s_cianci]

Right now it sounds like you need to work on yourself before you can ever hope to have a successful relationship with anyone. You seem to have anger issues to work on. Perhaps some anger management classes or counseling will do the trick. But you're going to have to make the move. No man will stay long with a woman who constantly gets angry and upset over every little thing. I know because I've been there. He's being very kind in saying that "it's not your fault."