[nakeda]

Hello I am a new member here and sorry for my bad english.

I wan to tell you my story and will anyone be kind enough to guide me so I know what to do with my relationship with my girlfriend.

I am originally from malaysia and now currently reside in USA. I've been here for almost 2 and a half years now. I will be going back to malaysia in 2 more years.
I met my girlfriend in my work place and we been seeing each other for 5 months now.
She dated her ex boyfriend for 8 years and they still haven't marry, don't ask me why because I tried to ask her and she said she don't know why. She broke up with him last year.

She told me that she's over him and will never go back to him anymore.well, they haven't see each other for over 8 months now.
Today she told me 1 shocking news, this is the reason why I am asking all of you fellows out there for guidance.
She told me that during her 8 years relationship with her ex-bf she did a lot of stupid stuff, saying she's young and in love and naïve.
She also told me that she had 2 babies with her ex-bf, aged 4 and 1. when I heard this news, I felt devastated, like my whole world just turn to black and white.
She said she love me very much now and want to be with me. I am happy and at the same time feel like being cheated, being played, like a toy.

I donno how much her ex-bf love her but what matter is I love her rite now and wan to be with her, but her past keep troubling me in my mind. I will be going back to malaysia soon and she said its not easy for her to let go of her 2 babies. I will not take her and her 2 babies back to malaysia with me. She said she is willing to go to malaysia to live with me but what about her 2 babies? She said her ex-bf will take care of them. But as a mother I don't think she can let them (her 2 babies) go that easily. Her babies is not here in USA rite now. They are in china with her ex-bf parent. Her ex-bf live and work here in USA too.

I am in a very complicated situation now and I really need all the guidance I can get. So please give me your advice. Do you think I should go on with this relationship or should I just let it go?

[amicon]

Call me oldfashioned but who leaves their children to be brought up by somebody else-the exs parents in this case? One of them is a year old she tells you-either she s not telling you the truth or else she is seriously troubled or both.
Plus you ll be returning to your native country shortly -my take on this is to let it go-there are too many red flags.

[jmjoseph]

Something is not right. Do you want to spend your life with someone who would NOT tell you something like THAT. And, would you also want to be with someone who would be so quick as to give up their children?

We don't know the whole story, however, this may be more than you want to "inherit". I would run like the wind.

I wish you luck.