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damon217 · Oct 7, 2009, 12:03 AM

What states allow underage marriage withoit the parents consent, and what all do you have to do for that to happen

ChihuahuaMomma · Oct 7, 2009, 12:07 AM

None. You are UNDER age. Why are you wanting to get married so early? Are you pregnant? What state do you reside in?

mudweiser · Oct 7, 2009, 12:23 AM

This is why it's called underage marriage.

Your under the age of consent.

::hits head with palm::

Sarah

ChihuahuaMomma · Oct 7, 2009, 12:28 AM

Yup, more information would certainly be helpful.

damon217 · Oct 7, 2009, 01:00 AM

Originally Posted by ChihuahuaMomma

None. You are UNDER age. Why are you wanting to get married so early? Are you pregnant? What state do you reside in?

Cause I love her and wan to be married and no she isn't pregnant, and in Illinois

mudweiser · Oct 7, 2009, 01:07 AM

Originally Posted by damon217

cause i love her and wan to be married and no she aint pregnant, and in illinois

You have to get an education first to get married.

You can still be boyfriend and girlfriend- what's the rush?

Sarah

Cat1864 · Oct 7, 2009, 05:37 AM

Originally Posted by damon217

cause i love her and wan to be married and no she aint pregnant, and in illinois

Damon, I don't know of a single state that allows underage marriage without serious restrictions. Restrictions even more life changing than marriage itself.

I know this isn't what you want to hear, but you need to really think about what a marriage is and the consequences of getting married.

I understand that you care deeply for this girl and think that love conquers all. You're at that age where it is easy to forget that marriage is a long-term commitment. By long term, I mean decades.

As mudweiser said, "what's the rush?"

If you are afraid of losing her, marriage won't take that fear away. If anything it will make it worse because the stresses of everyday life put a huge strain on a relationship even without having children added to the mix.

If you really want to spend the rest of your life with this one girl, what difference will a couple of years make? Take time to finish high school. Decide where you want to go to college or job training. Allow yourselves to mature mentally and emotionally before you add the stress of marriage and possible children. Give yourselves time to get a good financial foundation started for your marriage. Start it off right so that it has the best chance of surviving reality.

ChihuahuaMomma · Oct 7, 2009, 11:14 AM

If you love her so much and want to spend the rest of your life with her, then you will want to build a healthy relationship and friendship with her before jumping into a marriage. Breaking up is much easier NOW if you two grow apart than it is if you are married. I know you don't want to hear it, but you're still young and high school sweethearts aren't always around forever. I dated my high school sweetheart for 6 years, and we realized after high school that we weren't meant to be, and parted ways.

Just take your time and see where your love takes you.

Also, how old are the two of you?

Fr_Chuck · Oct 7, 2009, 11:21 AM

The parents will have to agree ( both sets if they are both underage)

Do you have income, enough to live on your own ? Not with family or friends, if not sorry not really ready to get married

But yes, so get engaged, and wait for the time till you are both 18. You are still dating and seeing each other, there is a lifetime to learn the regret of that choice latter

ChihuahuaMomma · Oct 7, 2009, 11:41 AM

I couldn't agree more. Unless you can both support yourselves and each other, you are not ready to be married.

What is both of your plans for the future? Are either/both of you planning to go to college? If so, how? You will have to take separate work shifts and go to school while the other person is working, you'll never get to see each other. Are you planning to live with parents?

What would be the plan if you decided to marry? Have you thought that far ahead? Are you wanting marriage or just a wedding?

When we were younger, my high school sweetheart and I wanted to be married so badly in high school. We gave each other promise rings, and threw a formal party for our anniversary. It satisfied our need for the wedding that we wanted (wasn't nearly prepared for marriage).

mudweiser · Oct 7, 2009, 12:54 PM

Originally Posted by ChihuahuaMomma

I couldn't agree more. Unless you can both support yourselves and eachother, you are not ready to be married.

What is both of your plans for the future? Are either/both of you planning to go to college? If so, how? You will have to take separate work shifts and go to school while the other person is working, you'll never get to see eachother. Are you planning to live with parents?

What would be the plan if you decided to marry? Have you thought that far ahead? Are you wanting marriage or just a wedding?

When we were younger, my high school sweetheart and I wanted to be married so badly in high school. We gave eachother promise rings, and threw a formal party for our anniversary. It satisfied our need for the wedding that we wanted (wasn't nearly prepared for marriage).

This is a longshot, but my guess is that you grew up and didn't marry him... because you grew up.

Sarah

ChihuahuaMomma · Oct 7, 2009, 01:18 PM

Yup, we broke up when we were 17.