[Asian girl]

I found a nice 2 bedroom 1bath room apartment on March 2006. I spent a lot of money, time and energy to furnish the whole apartment to make it a comfortable place to live. To reduce the cost, I found her-my roommate online to share the apartment with me .During the interview, I told her I don’t like people put unwashed dishes stay over night, also don’t like loud music, and frequent overnight guests. She responded that she is the same. So I was happily let her put her name on the lease with me till Aug 31, 2006(the lease ends at that time, and we can renew). On May 1st, she moved in with her bedroom furniture, and shares all my stuff with me.
In the first month, she traveled a lot for work, so we did not have much time to know each other. I just remember it sounded like she always had health problem, because every day I was told she has different problems (headache, stomachache, arms sore, potential cancer). And she never paid expense such as paper, sponge, soap and anything for the apartment. Also, she never cleans apartment and takes trash out. On the other hand, she always blame that neighbors upstairs were too loud, since she can hear their footsteps all the time and she could not sleep. Whenever something needs to be fixed in the apartment, she always waited till me come home to tell me to call landlord. She even does not change a light bulb. But at least she washed her dishes, did not blasting music and brought over night guests. I told myself to be more tolerant, because no one is perfect, that is part of being human.
In mid of June, my landlord asked us if we want to sign another year lease from Sep 1st 2006to Aug 31 2007. I definitely wanted to stay, and she wanted to stay with me, so we both sign the lease. She also asked me to ask landlord if possible to move to top floor so no one would bother her. I did and got the top floor apartment. Then she started to blame me watching TV, even the volume is extremely low I almost could not hear. She suggested me to move TV to another side of the living room so it will not bother her, I did for her again. After that, she was still unhappy, she suggest we should switch rooms because she thinks my room is quieter than hers (2 bed rooms are equal sized). I did not let her this time. She started fighting with me saying I never put myself in her shoes. Then she said “your husband dumped you”, actually she does not know anything about my marriage. She also told my friends who did not know my personal life that I was dumped by my husband when they come here, and saying I am not honest to my friends. I was very embarrassing. When I ask her to take turns to clean the apartment, she said she did not use that much and she felt like that is my apartment because everything there is mine, so she could not attack my territory by cleaning and taking trash out. I told her she should not have said something to hurt me. She responded she is a person very good at using words to hit on the right spot and she is proud of it. In the mid of August, I told her it seemed we are not good match, and asked if she can move out, because I got the apartment and furnished it. She did not move out, instead, she asked me to move out. She said, if you want to stay with me, be quiet, otherwise, I will make your miserable.

On Sep 1st, we moved to top floor apartment. Both she and I got friends to help moving. I had a lot of work to do because almost everything there is mine except her bed room furniture. When I moved my stuff, she pointed out I am a selfish person did not help her move her stuff. Since then, I started not talking to her, because I was so upset with her.
One day, she told me she would have a friend stay over night here with her. Then later, it came out 3 people (2 guys and 1 girl) stayed here, she stayed in somewhere else. When I left apartment in the morning, strangers were still here. I changed a new lock of my bedroom so no one can come in without key. And I told her she should not have done that. Also I told her that I don’t like strangers sleep on my sofa. After that, she lied on my sofa every weekend for hours reading and eating there, so I could not use. And she started to stay in bath room for an hour in the morning of week days so I could not use. Also, she put unwashed dishes in the sink for over a week, and made mess on my furniture. She told me she would have over night guests over every once a while, if I don’t let them sleep on my sofa, she would buy a king bed put in middle of the living room, so more people can sleep on it. So now I can only brush my teeth and clean my face in the kitchen, taking shower at night before she comes home, put my food in my bedroom just in case she may put something there. Recently, I moved out my furniture just because I am not happy letting her making mess on them. When she came home, she asked me when I will be moving out because she has a friend wants to move in with her. When I told her I am not planning move out. She said she will add another person on the lease to live with us. Also, she will be away for a while for work, if there is anything missing, she will call police. She also mentioned she will find a sublet to live with me when she is away. Besides, she asked if I got my green card, she thinks I came here illegal and she said she will report that. To force me move out, she also started not flush the toilet. When she is not using bathroom, she still turns the light on and closed door pretending she is there to not let me use. The kitchen in my apartment smells terrible because she left food there and kept the windows closed. On weekends, when I want to study, she blasts music, spanks her loudly, and walks around the apartment naked… I have talked to a lot of people, no one can help me. I really like my aprtment, and don't want to move out since I have spent so many time, energy, and money finding and furnishing it. Are there any experts here can help me with my miserable roommate issue?

[excon]

Hello Asian girl:

I'd love to help you. So would everybody else. Please reduce your problem down to it's legal aspects. I'm not going to weed my way through your personal stuff to figure it out.

excon

PS> If you have a roommate you don't like, give her 30 days notice and be done with it.