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    Oct 3, 2009, 10:53 PM
    How to make people like you.
    I don't know what's going on but it seems everyone's against me in this town I live in and no one likes me at all. I have absolutely no friends anymore for no reason! I'm seriously alone, haven't been this alone since I was in middle school/9th grade till I dropped out from being teased and being called ugly all the time. Now I obesessed over the way I look cause in my warped mind think that if I look original and look like I put time into my image people will find me interesting or something. But it seems to do the opposite. Also I dye and cut my hair all kinds of crazy ways and have all sorts of piercings and I think I started getting into that whole image cause no one can really call you ugly.. but just "different". Plus that's what the guys I like look like yet... they go for the plane,prissy girls! Nothing makes sense. I just want some real friends to have fun with. What are some tips on how I could possibly make someone like me?:eek:

    Btw I do have a very outgoing,obnoxious personality,I talk a lot, sing a lot, and am all over the place. Its just the way I am and I like it and don't want to change my personality to please others.

    Xoxo
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    Oct 3, 2009, 10:56 PM

    The first thing you would have to do is stop obsessing over yourself and start looking past your own skin at other people. I'd tell you more, but you said you don't want to change.
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    Oct 3, 2009, 11:05 PM
    Hi, itsamor!

    If you were to change the way some things about you are, would you think that would be a bad thing if it would help you to make new, good and lasting friends?

    Thanks!
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    Oct 3, 2009, 11:05 PM

    I can change small things like stop being so blunt and sarcastic and other things... some people don't get my goofy jokes. I also need to clear my rep cause people say I'm a slut,use people for drugs, junkie, attention whore,annoying,fake,anorexic.. all kinds of crazy crap no one thought until I dated my ex. He started and ruined my rep cause I was with him. So the whole town assumes what he does. I DO. Not true at all!
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    Oct 3, 2009, 11:08 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by itsamor View Post
    I can change small things like stop being so blunt and sarcastic and other things...some people dont get my goofy jokes. I also need to clear my rep cause people say im a slut,use people for drugs, junkie, attention whore,annoying,fake,anorexic..all kinds of crazy crap no one thought untill i dated my ex. He started and ruined my rep cause i was with him. So the whole town assumes what he does. I DO. not true at all!
    You can change big things too, but it's good to start small and work up. Please list three things you would be willing to change.
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    Oct 3, 2009, 11:09 PM
    Hi again, itsamor!

    How do you know that people are saying things about you as you describe, please?

    Thanks!
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    Oct 3, 2009, 11:13 PM

    Try to Become straight edge so they have no reason to call me junkie. I take pills cause I need them to sleep. Which is just xanax and seroquel. Everyone in towns a pothead but I'm going to prove to them they're lame and need to lay off cause its making them stupid. Stop going to random partys with people I don't know cause its dangerous... and yeah it's a way to meet people but I think I need to meet people who don't live to get ed up.
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    Oct 3, 2009, 11:15 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by itsamor View Post
    Try to Become straight edge so they have no reason to call me junkie. I take pills cause i need them to sleep. which is just xanax and seroquel. Everyone in towns a pothead but im going to prove to them they're lame and need to lay off cause its making them stupid. Stop going to random partys with people i dont know cause its dangerous.... and yeah its a way to meet people but i think i need to meet people who dont live to get ed up.
    Good start. Clean up your language too maybe? How old are you? Is your avatar you?
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    Oct 3, 2009, 11:15 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Clough View Post
    Hi again, itsamor!

    How do you know that people are saying things about you as you describe, please?

    Thanks!
    My old best friend james tells me the gossip so do others. They like to stir so of course they tell me what everyoness saying. Plus I hear them whisper when I'm in the room like baby's. I pretty much have ears all over town. Everyone knows each other.
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    Oct 3, 2009, 11:17 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    Good start. Clean up your language too maybe? How old are you? Is your avatar you?
    I don't talk that bad and yes it's me... don't tell me I look like a clown already heard it
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    Oct 3, 2009, 11:19 PM

    Oh I'm 19
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    Oct 3, 2009, 11:22 PM
    Originally Posted by Clough
    Hi again, itsamor!

    How do you know that people are saying things about you as you describe, please?

    Thanks!
    Quote Originally Posted by itsamor View Post
    My old best friend james tells me the gossip so do others. They like to stir so of course they tell me what everyoness saying. Plus I hear them whisper when I'm in the room like baby's. I pretty much have ears all over town. Everyone knows each other.
    what everyoness saying.
    Does that include the parents and other adults in the town?

    Thanks!
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    Oct 3, 2009, 11:27 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by itsamor View Post
    I don't talk that bad and yes it's me...don't tell me i look like a clown already heard it
    Well, it rolled right off your tongue, like that's normal.

    Maybe NOT looking like a clown would help your cause. Would you be willing to change?
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    Oct 3, 2009, 11:31 PM
    Do you have a job, please?

    Thanks!
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    Oct 3, 2009, 11:48 PM

    I work at a pawn shop and have modeled before but nothing steady or nothing that pays well. The pawn shop is under the table no where else will hire me cause my image... thats why got to rely on alternative jobs and altern life. I don't want to look like a plain jane though. Not going to happen! "I wanna stay young untill i die" -7 seconds. Story of my life.
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    Oct 3, 2009, 11:51 PM
    What is the population of the town in which you live? Also, is it the same town where you work, please?

    Thanks!
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    Oct 3, 2009, 11:55 PM

    I have no clue the population and yes I work here Im planning on moving to downtown LA but I don't have the money =[
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    Oct 3, 2009, 11:55 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by itsamor View Post
    I dont want to look like a plain jane though. Not gonna happen! "I wanna stay young untill i die" -7 seconds. story of my life.
    Nope, no Plain Jane, but not young-looking either.
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    Oct 3, 2009, 11:57 PM

    No I loook young everyone thinks I'm 16 or something
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    Oct 4, 2009, 12:06 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by itsamor View Post
    No i loook young everyone thinks im 16 or something
    Probably because of your behavior and attitude and that you do all the wrong make-up things that 16 y/os do.

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