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    kmart09 Posts: 13, Reputation: 1
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    Oct 1, 2009, 02:41 AM
    still contacting me
    hello, I haven't been on this site for awile. I decided to update on my relationship break up stuff, to see if I can get anyone's input, or advice.

    okay so he broke up with me, I took it hard, we didn't talk.
    so eventually I did cut him off completely. Still thought about him A lot thought, but I was doing good with the no contact.
    he randomly started texting me from time to time, till he eventually told me he missed 'us' he asked me if I did, and I said 'sometimes'
    I am to stubborn for my own good sometimes.

    anyway, he texted one night and said he wanted to talk about us, and that he still liked me, and he knows that cause he always thinks of me.
    I tell him I still likes him as well, we never meet up and talk, we continue to text a bit. I don't trust him a bit, and I don't take anything seriously

    even though I would love to believe what he says, he's not the person I thought. And wanted him to be. He has problems..

    so we are still texting, and ends up asking me if we could be 'fu*k buddies'
    which made me angry.

    After he seen I didn't want to be with him for those reasons, he tries to date some other girl, she turns him down. Lol
    he still randomly texts me stupid things like he's watching this show we used to watch and it made him think of me,
    I ignore the texts.

    I don't think about him everyday anymore, but I just think it's weird I still think of him period and when I see him I get weak, and I can't think straight.
    other guys are interested, but I'm totally NOT.. I just don't know I would like to move on, with someone else, but I don't think its going to happen at this point.
    I really still have feelings for this person, and I just don't know why.

    this is my story summerized believe it, or not.

    heeelppp meee :[
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    Oct 1, 2009, 03:01 AM
    This guy s a deadend.
    Ignore his texts, change your number and reread your previous threads here.
    Keep busy and when you really feel you re ready to date again do so.
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    Oct 1, 2009, 05:18 AM

    Have you asked him not to text you? If you have and he still does, I would really suggest changing your number. Of course you're going to think of him if he's still texting you.
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    Oct 1, 2009, 06:12 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by kmart09 View Post
    i don't trust him a bit, and i don't take anything seriously even though i would love to believe what he says, hes not the person i thought. and wanted him to be. he has problems.
    That pretty much summerizes it. No trust = No relationship.

    Quote Originally Posted by kmart09 View Post
    After he seen i didnt wanna be with him for those reasons, he tries to date some other girl, she turns him down. lol
    Sounds like at first he was still a bit attached to you, but if he's ready to date other girls, then he's ready to move on.

    Stop answering his texts. Stop talking to him. It will only add to the confusion and prolong your healing process. Ignore him until he gets the hint. Change your phone number if you have to.
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    Oct 1, 2009, 07:14 PM

    Thank you, you have no idea how much you guys help.

    BIG TIME helping me out.
    Friends just aren't enough sometimes, sometimes it takes a complete stranger.

    Thank you so much!
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    friend4u178 Posts: 3,349, Reputation: 1584
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    Oct 1, 2009, 07:21 PM

    The guy just wants you to be his F... buddy , do you really want to be used?? Don't think so.

    You've got over most of your healing from this guy so don't go back to square one and have to go through all the hurt again.

    Like the others have said just ignore his texts , he'll eventually get the idea and stop it once he realises you aren't going to respond.
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    Oct 1, 2009, 07:43 PM

    It's probably cheaper to block his number if you can. You don't wan tsomeone who doesn't respect you. He knows that when he texts you it makes you think of him, he's trying to get you to cave and give him what he wants. This is not what you need. Don't be manipulated. Either change your number or block him. And block him from any networking sites as well. You might think you still have feelings for him, but he's just going to let you down again. So pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and move foreword. :)

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