[Troubled Teen 13]

Right, I love my boyfriend very very much, he's amazing to me.
But he's about to get 7 piercings
Even though he knows I'm afraid of them.
I don't like metal sound on teeth at all
And if he gets a lip piercing I will freak out
Can someone help me?

When I was younger, and I had a pie foil tin thing
I chewed into one on a filling, and it sent this shiver shock disgusting thing down my spine
Now when I think of kissing my boyfriend I feel that shock and I'm worried
He knows all about this, and he loves me
But he says "its who i am and no-one can change that"
And does he know about how scared I am to touch him (yes he does)
What can I do, please help?

Much appreciated,

[jaime90]

Well, your boyfriend SHOULD consider your opinion if he really loves you- and if it's a definite no-no to you, then he should probably consider it MORE seriously. Don't pressure him, just be honest. If he still feels like "no one can change him" then don't try to argue against that feeling. Regardless of what really is going on, that's how he feels, and he still feels that way aside from anything you have said. I would be completely honest, if he still does it against your will, I would consider how much he really respects and loves you. Also, if he still gets the piercings, don't freak out on him- dumping him because he gets piercings is a really shallow reason to leave someone, after all- he can always take them out when he kisses you!

[Alty]

He says no one can change him, well, no one can change you either.

Talk to him, tell him that you don't like the idea of the piercings but it's his body, his choice. But, you have your own body, and make your own choices, so advise him that you will no longer be intimate with him in any way because you really can't stomach the piercings.

Then walk away and let him decide which he wants more, kisses from you, or a stud in his tongue.

[KISS]

I know that taste. Pretty nasty if you ask me. It's about as bad as taking a 9V battery to your tongue to see if it's good.

I'll bet that the amalgum (filling in your teeth) and the wrapper with it's covered side made a crude battery with your saliva. I'd have to try it.

[I wish]

You can change the way he is. He's going to do what he wants. The question is, can you accept that?