[lovebeatsme101]

I am a Lesbian.. at the age of 18.
And I am in love... might seem ridicoulous at this age but I am more mature for my age and I know what I want.
But I'm having problems with myself.. and causing my relationship to be in a big crisis.


I have issues.. that I feel I have to argue.. with my girlfriend... if she is still in love with her child's father still.. it drive me nuts to not be in her head and know if she still does.
She loves me more than anything I know that but I feel I can't be in love with her unless I truly know she loves me it seems she can tell me more than a million times but still I don't know.. This issue is more with me and may be being insecure.. because she has no relations with her fathers child and only talk on basis about their baby.
I just need help !

[redhed35]

I used to go out with a guy who wanted to sit in my head and watch my thoughts.. literally wanted to know what I was thinking all the time.. that drove me nuts!

Take a step back here... she is with you.. she says she loves you... not him..

If she needs to speck to him about the baby she should be able to do that without you panicking and going off the rails wondering what the conversation is and what she is thinking.. most likely everyday things,pay bills,clean the house,woryy about the baby,money,whatever.. most likely she is not thinking about you every second of the day!

How would she ever get anything done,and likewise with you.. its borderline obsession...

Couples can be together for 40 years,and still surprise each other with how they perceive a situation.. you can't know what someone is thinking all the time...

So,you can either give yourself and her a break and stop obsessing and get on with the day,or see a therapist to help you through these issues,or end the relationship,and you won't have to worry if she loves you or not...

What your doing will eventually wear you both down and the relationship will end anyway.