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    mrmaynard Posts: 3, Reputation: 1
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    Sep 23, 2009, 07:30 AM
    Girlfriend recently became a stripper
    I've been dating my girlfriend (who I love more than anything) for over a year now and she recently became a stripper and I can honestly say I HATE the idea of her taking off her clothes and putting on a show for strange guys who, most of whom are older than her own dad. She loves the job and I've tried to be supportive at first but I don't think I any guy should be expected to be okay with it. From a guy's perspective it is just so so hard to willingly accept the idea that their girl takes off their clothes for other guys and actually enjoys it so much. Just a guy's perspective
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    Sep 23, 2009, 08:36 AM
    mrmaynard the post you ve replied to is more than four years old. Maybe you d like to start your own post regarding your own situation.
    Thanks.
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    Sep 23, 2009, 08:57 AM
    Please do not piggypack on someone else's thread.

    If that's her choice, then you're just going to have to respect her wishes. If you can't accept her decision, then maybe she's not a good match for you.

    "If you can't take the heat, get out of the kitchen."
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    Sep 23, 2009, 09:49 AM

    Well it depends, have you gone to a strip club yourself? If you have, while going out with her, then you just have to deal with it. If not, then maybe you two have different morals and it won't work.
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    Sep 23, 2009, 09:59 AM

    Her job is her choice, staying with her is your choice.
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    Sep 23, 2009, 10:31 AM

    It's not like she even needs the money, her parents give her everything. They pay for her tuition, phone, car, food, etc. that and she has two other jobs. One of which is working at an elementary school with 6-year-olds. If her parents find out they're going to flip and it's hard telling what they'll do. Possibly refuse to support her anymore. And if someone from the school district finds out she'll lose that job which applies to her major. Then she might have to strip to make ends meet and it won't be recreational fantasy for her anymore
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    Sep 23, 2009, 11:00 AM

    She is doing her thing, let her. We all pay the consequences of our actions, or get the blessings from them. I doubt she wants to change, not for you, her parents, or the future as you see it.
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    Sep 23, 2009, 11:47 AM

    This is a difficult situation, one that I don't think either of you are going to be easily swayed from. Now, you say she has two jobs and she doesn't really need the money... So she enjoys it? I don't agree with stripping but most of the time, I can understand why women do it. They feel they have to do it to make money, which I also understand. But I do not understand this situation other then she enjoys the excitement in it. But if you love her, I've noticed people on here saying "accept her" I wonder what they'd say if she was a drug addict, "accept her"? I hope you find all the answers you need, 'cause really in the long run no one can tell you how to think or feel but yourself.
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    Sep 23, 2009, 11:57 AM

    A guy's perspective? Seriously? I think it depends on the person because I'm a woman-only 19 years old, and I'm sorry but I have to disagree with most of the replies here. I think that it's unacceptable for her to show her body off for money- I might sound overly-conservative here but I'm being serious. mrmaynard- I don't blame you for feeling the way you do.

    This is just from a woman's perspective, but if my man went off and became a male stripper, I would have problems with that. The thing is- you should respect and honor her as your significant other, but this is just completely inappropriate- not the fact that she wants another job (which it seems you have no problem with) it's her CHOICE of job.

    To me, flirting w another person is a close step away from cheating. Twisting your hair and batting your eyelashes is flirting- so what is taking off your clothes for other guys? Ummm... getting as close to cheating as you can without actually doing it?

    Did she even consult you on this decision, or seriously ask you what your feelings are about it? If I were you, I would be straight up honest with her- tell her that you disagree with her decision, and that there are other jobs that would'n't strain your relationship like this one. Be respectfull when you say this so that her defenses don't go up. If she says, "I don't care ima do it my way" then clearly she doesn't respect you at all and could care less. But that's just me.
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    Sep 23, 2009, 07:10 PM

    Thanks everyone I appreciate all your opinions whether it was what I wanted to hear or not. Glad to gain some outside perspective on the situation. Thanks again
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    Sep 23, 2009, 07:50 PM

    Well, as a great man once said, you cannot turn a ho into a housewife...
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    Sep 23, 2009, 08:14 PM
    Have you actually sat down and had a discussion with her about stripping? Why it bothers you and why she enjoys it?

    If she quit today, would the fact that she stripped still bother you?
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