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    none12345 Posts: 1,439, Reputation: 234
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    Sep 12, 2009, 08:10 PM
    My friend said I broke his trust?
    Anyway ill get straight to the problem. My best friend told me today that he can't trust me anymore because I broke a promise.

    Anyway back to a few weeks ago, we went to a casino to see how it goes. As we both are 19 and just barely pass the minimum age to get in one, we still live with our parents and he believes his parents wouldn't be so pleased if they found out.

    He is a little paranoid and believes my parents don't like me hanging out with him. We had to get a players card to go to the casino. So when we got back he told me to hide the card because he doesn't want my parents finding out and talking to his parents about it. This was when I was about to move to university so I didn't have time to look for it. I told him I lost the card but I ensured him my parents won't find it.

    A few weeks later (now) my parents found it and confronted me about it. They were actually pretty cool about it. I told my friend about this and he got so pissed saying a broke a promise saying my parents won't ever find the card. I didn't even rat him out so they don't even know I went to the casino with my best friend. Now he is all pissed. We argued and now we're not talking to each other.

    I find him acting a little immature as I don't recall promising him anything. He told me you don't have to say promise to make a promise and I understand that. What do you guys make of this?
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    Sep 12, 2009, 08:18 PM
    You ensured him that your parents would not find it. That was wrong , because they did. But it's not that big of a deal because his parents still don't know. Either way, I personally don't see what the problem is because you two didn't do anything illegal, and you both are adults now.
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    Sep 12, 2009, 08:24 PM

    Hi noney! I don't think you did anything wrong. It's not like you told your parents about it because you wanted to rat him out. If they confronted you, you would have to say something. What else could you say? "i don't were that came from?" you should tell your friend that it's not a big deal, nothing happened and he didn't get in trouble so he should just forget about it. :p
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    Sep 12, 2009, 10:57 PM

    It's not a big deal from a neutral point of view. It's not a big deal from your point of view. But it's a big deal from his point of view.

    If he says he lost your trust, then there isn't much you can do about it. Give him some time to cool off and then confront him about it later. If you guys are that close, it will be easy to forgive.

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