[smumf1992]

Right, if I'm honest I really had a great relationship with my ex. It was casual and with barely any pressures; we wernt even together that long. But as we live about half an hour apart and I'm a full time student I was worried when going back to college. All I needed to be told was to shut up and get over myself, but no it had to everything up as that’s what I’m best at doing. Yet he just stopped talking to me, so naturally I was worried, but he just interpreted that as being really clingy.
So I was on the phone in floods to my friend. (it doesn't help that my mum put me on the pill so I was really hormonal or w.e anyways)
And she told her boyfriend who is best mates with my ex. So naturally he told him. And that's when everything went wrong.
I’m really not clingy! I just feel so uneasy when I don’t know where I stand with people. And like it was kind of bad, because about a month ago he said he loved me. So I casually started saying it back. And then I said it when we were having one of the big arguments. And he said he couldn't say it because it was a big thing to say. I was so ed off based on the fact he made me look and feel like a for saying it. If I'm honest I don't even know what love is
Oh no there is more
And then there waas the drunk thing where I got completely drunk as you do, but somehow didn't feel my limit. So I was a state. So the next day he dumped me. Saying it was too much.
But now he's telling me all of these pressures etc, I don't love him though. I just really like him. I just loved how casual the relationship was
Like the only pressure I felt was to be better than his last ex. As she was a to him and ed him up.
Because he doesn't know if things will be like they were with his girlfriend before me. He was hurt so much last time. He just doesn't want it to be like that again
. Then yesterday he suggested us taking things really slow as in "friends going into something". I have no idea what so ever what to make of this.
Help me please.

[talaniman]

All I hear are your insecurities, and excuses, why this wasn't a healthy relationship. Your in way over your head with someone who just isn't ready for a healthy adult relationship.

Get out of your comfort zone, get your act together without his influence, and leave each other alone.

Going slow at this stage is a disaster waiting to happen, as you both are to needy, and distracted, to do for yourselves, by yourselves. And that's what's really needed, not you two trying to get together.

For what??