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    Violetbrown Posts: 2, Reputation: 1
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    Aug 31, 2009, 06:05 PM
    How can I get my man to slow down during sex ?
    My guy has to do rapid thrusting like jackrabbit to be able to orgasm when we have sex. It's to fast for me to enjoy, I've tried being on top and that works for a bit then he changes positions. What an easy approach to telling him that its not enjoyable for me that won't hurt his feelings? How can I get him to climax without having to go through this every time? :(
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    Aug 31, 2009, 06:14 PM

    Try just simply asking. Maybe you both can make a compromise to save the "jackrabbit" till the end while you get something more sensual in the beginning. When things get steamy just ask, in your best sultry voice, "Hey, let's slow down a little bit." You get the drift ;)
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    Sep 1, 2009, 06:44 AM

    Try telling him... and if he doesn't listen... try cutting him off.

    Its not a race to the finish. He's still going to get his, its only fair you have a shot at getting yours too.
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    Sep 1, 2009, 12:08 PM

    I agree. You need to talk to him. Assure him that he'l get his chance to orgasm, but that you need more stimulation and sensuality to get there.
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    Sep 1, 2009, 12:39 PM

    I only find it fair that you both get yours if you either get it. It isn't fair for him to just get his and go. You have to be considerate of your partner. Try taking the handles if it doesn't work talking to him. Maybe he would like it. Just take control and be rough and make him please you how you want to be pleased not how he wants to please you.
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    Sep 1, 2009, 01:08 PM

    Teach him another way.

    Get him to lie down. He is not allowed to touch you.
    Slowly kiss and caress him avoiding his gentials.

    When he is a breaking point,you get on top,again he is not allowed move,its part of the game.. your movements on top will be enough to bring him too orgasem without the jackrabbit style..

    It's a habit for him,you just have to retrain his mental state and physical body.

    If you turn it into a game,instead of a demand for your pleasure he will be more willing to mix it up with something different.

    You could also try dressing up,he can touch,but only slow movements.
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    Sep 1, 2009, 07:07 PM
    Thank You everyone for all your responses. I'm going to try your suggestions :)
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