[tboette]

Hi,
It's been a long time and a lot has happened since I last wrote to ask. Here goes, my husband had kidney stones. He had surgery and had the stones removed after 3 months of pain. After the surgery he had a lot of pain in his penis and couldn't get an erection with the normal things like looking at me naked or touching me. Now he is completely healed and last night we were going to make love and he began touching me like always and I noticed he wasn't getting an erection so I asked him if he wasn't attracted to me anymore or if he didn't love me anymore. He said yes he is attacted to me and yes he loves me very much. He said he must be crazy because he get's these thoughts in his head and he doesn't know why. Just before we started there was something on TV about a man molesting a child and that turned him off so he turned off the TV. I know he was molested as a teenager by a man so maybe that's what turned him off or is it me or from the surgery? This maybe a dumb question but I am very worried. Please help! We never made love. I told him not to worry and we both went to sleep.

[Krs]

Who knows... but give him a break.
What thoughts does he get?

Have u tried oral sex, for starters?

[J_9]

Is it you? He said it is not, so leave it at that. He already told you the answer. We can't tell you that it is, cause we don't know him.

I agree with KRS, what thoughts? About what was on TV? Maybe he nees some counseling.

From the surgery? Again, we don't know. The doctor could most likely answer that question.

These are all questions you need to address with your husband.

[tboette]

Who knows... but give him a break.
What thoughts does he get??

Have u tried oral sex, for starters?

Yes, I have on many occasions. Last night I did not. Maybe I should have, but I felt like he was uncomfortable.:eek:

[Krs]

And could you blame him poor thing? :)
(its a man porogative)