[GreenDeath]

Ok, me and my girlfriend have been dating for 9 months now and I can say that she is freaking awsome! I have the best times with her and I can say I love her things we us are really serious to, not to get to personal but I was her first, and for me she was the first person I really loved besides family, I tend to keep my guard up but with her I just feel like everything is good, I have someone to talk to now and I love it I feel like I can share things with her, the problem is she's going to college soon and I'm going to be leaving for basic at paris island for the marines I'm not worried that she will do something I trust her more then I have trusted anyone but I feel like lately we are distant she seems mad at me for no reason and snaps on me a lot and its only me! When we hangout with people she's fine with them but I get ignored, I want her in my life if I could have things my way I would be with her but even if I'm not she's someone I don't want to lose as a friend either I would like if we could still be close but if with me leaving and her going also, I'm not sure if staying together is the best call? And if we end up apart how can I still remain close to her as a friend, both of us have said we want something long term and that we want to be friends if anything happens but relationships are... funny.. like that any advice is welcome and VERY VERY WANTED! In the end ill do my own thing but I would really like someone with more time in relationships then me to put in there two cents

Thank you

GreenDeath

[slapshot_oi]

...im not sure if staying together is the best call?

It's not, and for someone going into basic training you should be mentally prepared and that includes dropping and forgetting about all baggage. I can't imagine how much it would suck to get punished for not paying attention because you were wondering what your girlfriend was up to.

I'm not saying you can't handle it, but if your girlfriend is giving you bad vibes and you're picking up on it, something's obviously not right.

Besides, you were only together for nine months, which isn't long at all.

[talaniman]

This is something you talk about, and figure out together.

That's what its all about, and its good you both recognize a big change is coming and decisions have to be made.

She may not want a long distance relationship with you, and you may have trust, but after being apart, you both may change later.

Talk, and listen, and be honest with each other.

[Imabadman]

This is something you talk about, and figure out together.

Thats what its all about, and its good you both recognize a big change is coming and decisions have to be made.

She may not want a long distance relationship with you, and you may have trust, but after being apart, you both may change later.

Talk, and listen, and be honest with each other.

I fully agree here. Talk it out. The last thing you want while at basic is a "Dear John" letter.