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    fungirl2525 Posts: 7, Reputation: 1
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    Aug 16, 2009, 01:40 PM
    Almost 16 and no real social life
    I am 15 and will be a sophomore in high school. I feel like such an outcast at school. Some students talk to me, but never ask me to hang out. I have a bunch of friends on Facebook from school. The only person I ever hang out with is a girl from where I used to live since I moved to a different school in another city. No one else ever asked me to hang out there, too. And I've never been on a date before or held hands with a guy before or received a flirty text.Is there something wrong with me? Help!
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    chuff Posts: 3,397, Reputation: 1235
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    Aug 16, 2009, 04:25 PM

    I'd say there is nothing wrong with you. I don't know how old I was when I held hands but I honestly think it was in my 20's. Most guys don't like doing that unless I'm missing something. As for the no real social life, why not use Facebook to invite your friends there to do something like plan a trip to an amuzement park, bowling, video games at your place, UFC PPV at your place ( I might come to that myself) ghost tour around town(this is actually big in my hometown... don't ask) to the beach, go karting, or something you can think of.

    As for dating I know as a teen you put yourself under the radar about dating but please trust me on this, not having a date at 15 is NORMAL. I can not stress this enough. In just 5 years at age 20 you are not even going to think twice about this. Do not focus on this as a negative, but rather focus on all that you have to offer and then others will take note of that and find attraction in it. Bring your own self attention to what is positive and the rest will fall into place behind it.
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    Aug 16, 2009, 11:34 PM

    Wow, one of the major things you haven't experienced is a flirty text? What is the communication in today's generation going to? *sigh*

    Anyway, lay off boys until you have no other problems in your life. At your age, we will cause nothing but.

    As for the not hanging out, what have you done? I mean, how do the kids around you know you want to go do something fun. If all you do is talk about your old friends at your old school before you moved, they are going to think that you haven't gotten over them, so don't want to hang out with them.

    Want them to hang out with you at the mall? Invite them to hang out with you at the mall.
    Want them to go bowling, pool, karaoke, etc. with you? Invite them.
    Want them to invite you to all the parties? Throw your own.

    Until you show them that you are interested in doing things with them, they won't be interested in doing things with them.
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    Aug 16, 2009, 11:44 PM

    Your only 15 I wouldn't expect you to have been on a full fledged date yet! Maybe try inviting others out that you talk to sometimes instead of waiting for them to make a first move! I didn't really truly start dating until I was 16 - 17, I just didn't need the worries of men, or boys in your case :P! There is absolutely nothing wrong with you! You just need to branch out, have fun in high school, make new friends and as I was told on this site don't sweat the small stuff!!
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    Aug 17, 2009, 07:47 AM
    I have a bunch of friends on Facebook from school.
    Do as the others have said, and do something besides Facebook, with your friends. Like invite them to hang out with you.
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    Aug 17, 2009, 08:12 AM

    Some students talk to me, but never ask me to hang out.
    Don't wait to be invited by them... ask them to hang out with you!

    Ask them to go to the movies, or come over to your house for a games night...

    If you just wait for them you might be waiting forever, they wouldn't even know how you feel.
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    Aug 17, 2009, 08:53 AM

    If you feel like you are not making friends at school you could join clubs at school to make more friends. Just be yourself and think positive :) xx

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