[emzieXxX]

I have been dating my boyfriend for 9 months.. I'm 16 and he's 17 so wer still quite young...
Everything is great, we trust each other, have fun together, never have had a fight not even an argument and we have gone all the way and it was great :) he's not really my type in looks but he's one of the nicest guys I've ever met or gone out with, and I do care for him a lot and I love him

But lately I've been thinking whether I'm in love him, he's told me he loves me and I've told him I love him 2, but you hear people say that their stomachs goes in nots from seeing them the butterflies ye know, and I don't get that... I'm attracted to him and I'm always happy to see him but I got talking to one guy from a friend and every time I talk to him I'm so attracted to him and he's really nice person aswel... so why don't I get that butterly feeling towards my boyfriend? Is their something wrong with us? Or is it me?

Please help and don't spare my feelings, I just want honest answers thanks:)

[Jake2008]

I don't think there is anything wrong with you. Different boyfriends will affect you differently, but it doesn't mean you care for them less because you don't feel the butterflies.

You will go through many relationships in your life before you meet 'the one', and believe me, it is more likely than not you will have butterflies, you'll get tongue tied, you will do and say really goofy things because you're trying too hard and you're nervous. You won't eat, or sleep, and all your time awake will be preoccupied with being in love.

Eventually it all settles down, and love grows and changes, but speaking for myself, I've been married 33 years, and STILL get butterflies. I know how totally sappy that sounds but it's the truth. Love is a beautiful thing, and when you find it, nurture it and work hard to keep it.

You are smart to at least think about how your boyfriends make you feel. That's all part of the learning. The more you learn, the better able you will be to find a compatible mate with qualities you are looking for.

[MoNkEyGrRl51298]

Well never look a gift horse in the mouth that's for sure if he is who you want in the inside just keep him never worry much about looks on the OUTside

[emzieXxX]

His looks don't bother me atal.. I was just making a point because I tot you mite want the whole story if ye get me

[shanemcfield]

Hello there emzie.I think you should stay with your boyfriend I know he doesn't have the looks and that they don't bother you.but he is a nice guy and he loves you.this guy you like could be not the nice guy you think he is people change when they in relationships trust me I know.you are most likely attracted to him because he isn't your boyfriend and it's a common feeling.I was just wondering did ye have butterflys when you where first with him? They come and go,it just means your being yourself with him that's a good sign.and no fights mean that ye don't have problems.why risk it with a guy that will most likely wear off.. hope I helped you emzie and if you have the time can you answer my question its like your problem with my girlfriend but I think she's about to leave me if you could answer quickly as I don't know what to do that would be great thanks xxxxxxxxxxxx

[Leidenschaftlich für Wahr]

OK... a misconception about love is that it gives you these oh so good feelings and if they aren't there, its not love. Fact is- if what you are looking for to determine love is emotion, then it isn't love at all. Love is a DECISION. You find someone you are interested in, and sure, feelings come along but they fade in and out. You need to focus on things like how well you relate, like religion, politics, spending habits, parenting tactics. And if you're too young to know any of those things... you're too young to be thinking about a serious relationship, and welcoming heartbreak into your life.