[stephaniecon]

Hello everyone
I am now trying to find new possibilities in the dating realm. My brothers always claim they're right in judging the guys I choose as suiters. They were right most of the time but I can see it as a lucky guess or plain manipulation. My brothers simply describe men as predators they only seek one thing. I like handsom men and they always tell me to go for a nerd or geek or a not so appealing guy. I think it may be an insult they're trying to throw my way. Well the "Christian guy" I dated seemed perfect in a sense that he was honest and did not seem like he had a hidden agenda. But later on I was wrong it didn't work out, and that first day my brothers met him they claimed he had no style he was doofy and not right for ne in the long run and seemed like he just wanted an experience nothing serious. I honestly did not see it but they were right. And now I have a chance to go out with a male model and I showed the guys picture and they're telling me it won't last either and we haven't even dated yet. They make men out to be savage breeds that obsess over poon pang pie ;1 I hate the fact that men seem to have an excuse for being able to change their minds so sudden and on to the next. Ive witness men leave me , leave my friends, leave their wives and on TV as well. Why men can have the right of an excuse on their behavior for sex. I get fed up with it. I hear lots of views , "oh well I'm a guy and I'm not like that" but I dated a guy who said that and got played. Well anyway my question here is do you believe men can be better judgers at character when it comes to other men ? Is a brothers intuition on their sisters potential partners true? And if so , how can women be so blind in falling for a man that is no good when we deffenietly think more about the topic of relationships and behavior more than men?
I will love to hear peoples in sight on this thank you :)

[N0help4u]

Well your brothers have been right so far so I vote that you listen to them a little better.
IF they can give you constructive reasons that it won't work then they may be right.
I am not sure I would listen to standard stereo type reasons like because he is a model or because he looks like a player.
But they have been right on target so far right?

[CFZD]

OP,

I have always trusted what my dad says as well. They might not be 100% right, but they CARE you more than others, so they try their best to judge and inform you. I would take SERIOUS consideration of my family memebers' suggestion.

About men just ONE thing, of course they want it and lots of them want more than that. You can't prevent them from wanting that, but it's YOUR take to give it or not. YOUR take!

[liz28]

The one thing I notice is that your brothers and your dad won't lie to you. They will tell you what you don't want to hear but they are out only to protect you because they don't want to see you get hurt. Guys know when another guy is no good just like most females know when another female is up to no good--especially when that female is dating a close relative or friend.

When you find someone that is right they will give you the heads up but might give the guy a hard time.

[stephaniecon]

Thank you ladies

[talaniman]

Listen to your brothers, and take your time with the guys, and get to know them, before you give them your heart, or anything else for that matter.