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NallaNeedsYou · Aug 10, 2009, 02:07 PM

I have been talking to my best friend Jo and hse has just broke up from a 5 month relationship with someone called Jack who is seventeen. Jo is unnaturaly mature and caring for a 14 yr old and I can't bear her to be hurt any more. She broke up with this guy and now he is asking all the questions she has no answers to: " five months of nothing then? they didn't mean anything? we came up against one brick wall and you ran? why? why not fight? why?" its driving her insane, she has been crying for hours and I tried to tell her to turn her phone off and shut him out she can't bear to make him feel bad and I'm lost as to what to do. Her parents have friends round so doesn't want to interrupt them. I want to stop the pain. I need to do something, please give me a clue as to what to do!

Alty · Aug 10, 2009, 02:14 PM

Tell her to go to no contact, cut him out or suffer the consequences.

She's not longer responsible for his feelings, for making him feel better. They aren't together so it's time to break all contact with him.

If she's not willing to do that then she'll have to deal with the things he says.

N0help4u · Aug 10, 2009, 02:16 PM

He either wants to know because some people do really want answers 'for closure' and things like that or he wants to use her reasons to manipulate her back to giving it another try.

First she needs to determine if this is what she really wants and then she needs to do No Contact. She can give him a reason if and when she is ready but for the most part she needs to do no contact.