[pleasehelp88]

I am having a difficult time choosing my bridesmaids so I'm looking for some advice. My fiancé and I decided to have 4 attendants on each side. (I know now days it is common to have uneven numbers but I don't think that will look right for our wedding.) I have chosen my close cousin to be my MOH and another cousin to be a bridesmaid. I have also asked a high school friend, who lives out of state, to be a bridesmaid as well. One of my questions is, is it OK to ask this friend who lives out of state? I've had people ask why I chose her when we never see each other. We talk and email each other so I still feel close with her. Is it wrong that I asked her? My second question is, I have 4 other friends that I am trying to choose from to be the 4th attendant. I believe that if I pick 1 of the 3 there will be hard feelings, so I am thinking about choosing the 4th friend even though we aren't as close.. Should you only choose your close, best friends or is it OK to chose someone you are not as close to but that you feel will be supportive on your big day?

[N0help4u]

You can ask your friend out of state no problem. If she declines then you can choose two from the four.
I would go with who you want the most and not what others think you should do--you can't please everyone.

Maybe you could ask the others to do something for your wedding like help organize, make favors or take pictures or videos. If you can make them feel important then they shouldn't complain.

[pauper79]

I would go with whoever you feel comfortable with, and not worry what other people think. The person who posted above is right, you can always give your other friends special jobs to make them feel included. For example you could ask your other friends to give a reading at the ceremony.

[N0help4u]

... and if the OP lives in Alaska??