[wkdbluelady]

My husbands ex wife, is making my life hell.
My husband has 3 children from his previous marriage, he was seprated from her when we got together but not yet divorced. She refused to him. We met and got together, she went mad, and stopped him seeing his children, she told him he couldn't see them unless they got back togther as her and the kids were 'a package, no her, no kids'. After a long drawn out court process, he gained visitation with his kids every wekend. We noe have 1 child of our own. During the first few months of my sons life, she sent abusive texts and letters, wishing bad stuff on me and my son, wishing him dead, saying that I slept around, and that my husband was not the father. She chased me with a hammer, smashing my car window. She has scratched my car. I get calls in the middle of the night. My husband tells me not to react and do nothing, but its hard! He is scared that if he says anything to her, she will stop him seeing the kids again, and although he has court papers giving him access to them, she has several times broken the court orders. Because she knows that would do anything, she demands anything she wants at the drop of a hat. For example, she sent my husband a text message, demanding the money for a new car the following week. He gave it to her, I was so upset, because of that, we had to go without.
She brainwashes her kids head, telling them lies about me, they don't talk to me, they are rude. They are horrible to my son too. My husband doesn't say anything, he feels he can't say anything or he won't get to see them. I am not allowed to go where she will be.
I am asking too much, just for my husband to stick up for me. She shouldn't be allowed to get away with this. What shall I do? Sometimes I feel like I want to take my son and leave, so we don't have to put ourselves through this.

[N0help4u]

He needs to set them straight when they are there visiting that the picture she is painting is wrong.
How do they treat you when they are on visits?

He and you need to get a restraining order and/or have it put in the court order that makes her have to quit calling leaving harassing messages and threatens.
If you need to he can get put in the custody order that a third party will pick up and drop off the kids.