[Shad07]

Hi,I have been dating a girl for 3 years but now she had left me and she is going to get married on September but still I had slept with her last Saturday and I still love her,but she don't want to see me again but still she is calling me and talking with me sometime she said she want to ran away with me and sometime she say she love that other person more than me.she is afraid of her parents,if they get to know that she is continuing to me or talking with me,she is making my life confused,I don't know what to do?Continued to meet her and talked to her or avoid her...

[Alty]

Avoid her.

She's playing games with you, she's also a cheater.

Go to no contact.

Realize that she's marrying someone else and he doesn't deserve this.

[jmjoseph]

First off, she left you. She has a fiancé. She cheated on her fiancé . She's playing you like a yo-yo. There are four reasons( probably more) why you should move on to someone else.

She's not the one.

Trust me, she will make your life miserable.

[BlackVY]

Its best you do the right thing here.

I'm guessing this marriage she is having in Sept is an arranged one?

Well, she is doing what her culture tells her to do, listen to her parents and marry the guy they tell her to, which is obviously not you.

She is doing the wrong thing here by sleeping with you, then saying she doesn't want to see you again, but then calls you and tells you she wants to run away. I guess this more common with arranged marriages than you would think.

She is getting married and cutting you out of her life because she has to, not because she wants to. She seems to want to be with you, but is not allowed because of her culture.

Both of you have a choice here. She could tell her parents she doesn't want to marry the other guy and that she wants to be with you, but I don't see that working out too well, and I don't see her parents calling off the arranged marriage with the other guy.

Therefore, the best thing for you to do is realize she is marrying someone because she has to, and unless she is willing to turn her back on her family and her culture, there is nothing you can do to stop this arranged marriage. You need to understand that she has to do this, and you need to cut all ties with her, as much as you love her, you need to stop contacting her, stop accepting calls or messages from her and leave her alone.

If you want to know why, consider this. If you were arranged to be married to a girl your parents picked out, and she was sleeping with her ex boyfriend behind your back before you got married to her, would you be OK with it? Do you think your fiancé is doing the right thing?

This is not a good situation, and I know how difficult it is when you are in a love relationship with someone but can't be with them because they have an arranged marriage waiting. I wish you all the best, and good luck.

[Torrid13]

Are your lungs in good condition?

Because you need to run away from this chick, and fast.

Another poster mentioned being a yo-yo. Any yo-yo used too much, and the string will eventually break.

Don't let yourself break for the sake of a cheater and a fickle hag.

Go No Contact and heal. Either that, or the confusion and heartache will eat you up like flies on a rib roast. Plus, watching her get married to someone else... eck.

It makes me nauseous, a woman like that marrying an ignorant man.

God luck.

[Gemini54]

This is not healthy and is going no-where.

If she's getting married to someone else you need to back off. She may well be unhappy with the arrangement, but that is her issue and her responsibility to deal with.

Having you to 'run to' only delays the inevitable - that she has to deal with her problems.

Don't be fooled - she's cheating with you and being dishonest to her fiancée. Do you want to be part of that?

Stop sleeping with her, talking to her and contacting her. Don't answer her calls. Accept that ti is over.