[chicagotulips]

I am currently in a long term relationship... and it is NOT going well. (posted a few things yesterday on the boyfriend subject)

Well, I think I have come to the end of the road with this guy :(. We have been dating for 2 years and the attraction just isn't there anymore for him.

Well, my next problem is the fact that kids absolutely adore him! My two older girls go to him with things they are not comfy coming to me with (Nothing major... he and I talk about issues that are major).

Well, I also just got divorced, so I think having my boyfriend there for my kids has been a big help in them coming to terms with my divorce. My divorce was a major stress on my kids... and he helped me pull them through it.

Well, now things are falling apart in our relationship... and I think it would be best to end things on good terms.

He truly is my best friend... and no doubt my soulmate. But we just don't seem to be compatible as a couple.

I don't want my kids to suffer... what do I do?! My middle daughter is best friends with his son... but he has made it clear in the past that he doesn't believe it would be possible for us to be friends after our relationship... since he doesn't know if he could handle seeing my with someone else... and therefore, my daughter would not only lose my boyfriend as a confidant (sp?)... but also her best friend... his son.

I'm so confused :confused:... Please help!!

[Justwantfair]

Then keep things as civil as possible and go your separate ways.

Since the break-up will be a mutual thing, it should help things go smoothly.

A break-up for adults does not have to be a break up for children.

In time with less contact the children will separate without the hard feelings.