[jabeenyousaf]

Hi,
I have been married for nearly 4 years and in beginning I lived with my mother in law.she did not like me and kicked me out.now that I have my own house my husband forcing me to live with my mother in law(she comes in my house and I lookafter her). I said to him that I can't do it because I don't like her and it will be arguments and fights all the time and I want my privacy.He now asks for return because my mum live with me since 2 years and I lookafter her but I use all her money to do that so. He says that now I have let your mum stays in the house you have to do the same for my mum.I said you forcing the decision on me whereas shariah allows me to have separate accommodation to your family.he said he will get marry again and make her to lookafter her.I was very unhappy so I said she can live but I can't fulfil all her duties as it is too much for me so either keep me a maid or you do her khidmat.he is not happy with that still.I said I can't do as a job but can't do from my heart because she treats me very bad.he now separated his bed from me and said he will not sleep with me at all because he don't have a respect for me anymore.I feel devastated because I left my family for him and this is what I get in return.he can't give me babies as he has azoospermia but I still wanted to live with him even though his mum kept on saying to leave him.what shall I do now.he forcing me to do what I cant.and he insists me to apply for khula.what shell I do?

[tickle]

Jabeen, your terminology means nothing at all to me 'khula' for one, I think I understand sharia law, but much. He is being quite nasty and abusive, jabeen and we really don't have to put up with this type of behavior on the North American continent. We play by different rules. You don't have to take care of his mother if you don't have to, even for pay.

His attitude is from his homeland and it is just a shame that you have to bend to his will. I would refuse to do what he wants.

There are laws here for husband and wives.

Tick