[miszindependent]

December 07, When I was 15 I met one of my good guy friends, friend. I didn't like him because I was obsessed with my "younger" ex from before. It wasn't that this new guy, I just didn't want to give him a change. A few weeks later, I did because I realize he wasn't what he looked like. I judged him thinking he was a player. So, we became great friends, ended up going out. We did everything together, swim, cook, fair, mall, everything! He used to always write me cute little text messages and just say the cutest thing that I sometimes didn't even acknowledge. I ended up running into my ex a few months later and making the biggest mistake of my life, kissing him. I kissed him SO STUPIDLY, I wasn't even thinking. I guess in my heart I did it because I wanted to know my new guy was better. I ran into my a fews of his that were girls and their cousin from Arizona a couple days later. They were telling me that I should really talk to him and appoligize and everything and I took what they said to heart. They seemed like we would be a really good couple and gave me the boost to talk to him again. I know that is the dumbest reason and that was the dumbest thing I have ever done, but my boyfriend saw me. He dumped me, broke his phone.. eventually called me and wanted me back.
From that day on, everything changed. I promised him that I would never talk to my ex again and the kiss was not worth it. I told him it was the biggest regret I've ever had and that I loved him so much.
He forgave me, we went on with our life. Yeah a few months later we got in "little kid" fights but we always settled our problems. We would break up for a couple days, then get back knowing that we don't like the fact of being without each other.
EXACTLY ONE YEAR AFTER I KISSED MY EX, the girl from Arizona came back to visit her cousins. (she visits the same time every year)
So, she came back and started calling him. I was over and realized she called.. He told me nothing was going on, she just asked him to chill and then he said he said no.
We ended up getting in a little fight over something so stupid a day later and then he started calling this girl from Arizona.
The whole week after that, THEY CHILLED. They hungout, they went to fireworks, they had a bonfire and went swimming.
She called me and told me to stop calling him (I hungup right away) and she texted me and told me not to call "her man"
And he didn't seem to do anything about it.
I was sad, furious, upset, miserable, devistated, INDESCRIBABLE.
A few days before she left, he started calling me. He wanted me back, begged for me, tried to get me back, called my family.. etc.
I ended up finding out that he kissed her "2 times" and he only "rubbed her over her jeans". I STUPIDLY forgave him. I told him now that I guess we were "even" we should drop everything.
He was excited I forgave him, he was nice and everything.
A couple days later, he started getting in fights with me, yelling, getting upset like he has been doing the past couple of months.
We always chill but lately this week he had work a lot. So I went there today and took his phone and ran into the bedroom and looked at his phone calls. They were talking 2:30 am on the phone for a half hour. Other days she called during the day,
NONETHELESS, they were still talking. She has pictures on her myspace of him kissing her cheek and he doesn't do anything about it. His myspace is deleted but he didn't bother telling her to take anything off.
After I saw that, I went, THREW HIS PHONE ON CONCRETE CEMENT, SLAPPED HIM VERY VERY HARD and left. I told him that I couldn't believe after all we've been through he would still lie to me. He told me the other day he doesn't talk to her and also he told me he doesn't like her.

Anyway, I would love to hear other peoples advice about this. I really need peoples opinions and anything is welcome. You don't have to agree with me if I am wrong because I think I do need a dose of reality. I changed my number just so I can be left alone for a while and now that my mind is a little clear please think about the situation.

P.S. If he really loved me do you honestly think he would try to get me back a year later!

[eloelo]

I think neither of you really know what you want. It was wrong of both of you to try things with other people while dating. I don't think you should get back together, it sounds like he held you cheating against him. If you dated him, again, you would hold against him the fact that he was with someone else. If a long period passes, like a year, and he doesn't do anything with any other girl and you're single as well, and he still wants you, then the relationship might be repairable. Honestly though I would find a different guy.

[bmc_imr4308]

Well coming from a guy that has had many dating problems and solutions to all of them I would say he's not worth it. Sounds like you both need to grow up a little before you even think about trying to date again. Like eloelo said don't get back together with him, he probably would continue lying to you and yelling at you. If you don't want to get hurt by him again follow our advice and find a new guy.