[Sanun]

I got married sept 2007,till now I didn't have a sexual life with my partner.So many problems happened after our marriage.My marriage is an arranged one.My husband is too fair,too handsome and well employed also.. he is telling that I am not up to his status. We are doing so many things to reduce our gaps but not effective.Compared to him I am an average girl. He is telling I am not attractive to him.. After our marriage in first day itself he felt ill and we suffered a lot.. And now it is too difficult to make him interest.. So many failures happened for our try but all failed. Now both of us have no sexual interest because we are so afraid of that. Because of this problem we are thinking about divorse also.Because this is affecting his career also.. Still we love very much and I don't want to give him any more problems.. So plese provide me some suggestions..

Please help me...

[jmjoseph]

This is an arranged marriage , to a man who disrespects you. You should find someone who loves you, adores you, enjoys being with you. Someone who not only is attracted to you, but knows how to treat you like a lady. No, you shouldn't be having sex with this man, you should be finding a way to get out of this mess. He says you are not good enough for him? He wants to stay together probably because you take care of him. People that love each other do not talk like he does to you. Good luck to you.

[smoothy]

I suspect you are either from Indai, or Pakistan. Based on your syntax of the words.

What are the cultural problems you would face thre as a Divorced woman, or are you currently residing in a country that does not practice arrainged marriages?

It will help us to know this.

[bronzebabe]

I am sorry to hear all of this. I understand that you and he may not have been perfect for one another, however, you Can be comfortable with him, and he can be comfortable with you, IF you are both willing.
He seems to be using excuses NOT to be with you. Might he consider some marriage therapy?