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crisluvsu731 · Jul 21, 2009, 12:59 PM

Lately I have been getting really irritable. I set up an appointment with a psychiatrist and I am going to get it checked out, In the mean time is there any advise? Anything and everything little is putting me in a bad mood and I don't know what to do to get out of it. I hate feeling this way, :(
Please help!

genesisz · Jul 21, 2009, 02:30 PM

Probably just your hormones going crazy or something. Just try to find something that relaxes you like for example I get like that somedays I just listen to music or walk around outside hope this helps

jenniepepsi · Jul 21, 2009, 02:38 PM

How old are you? Are you a girl or a boy?

First I would take a deep breath.

Then take a nice hot bath (or, if in my case, you live somewhere like Arizona and have 100+ tempratures right now, take a cool bath)

This will sound weird, but eat some chocolate ;)
Its been prooven that chocolate releases endorphines into your system, making you relax and feel better.

Have you been going through any major changes? Lost love? Lost someone close to you? A death in the family? A move? Have you quit smoking or drinking recently? (or any type of drug, recreational or prescription)

Above all, relax and try to take some time off whatever it is you do, work, school, etc. if you have children, see if you can get a sitter for a day or 2. take a day off work/school, and just relax and do something you enjoy.

Answer my questions and I can help a bit more OK?

crisluvsu731 · Jul 21, 2009, 02:43 PM

I am a 21 year old female. I would love to relax and not worry about anything but I work at a bank that I can't stand. I have been argueing with my boyfriend a lot lately and I use to think it was because of his depression and stubbornness but now I am starting to wonder if it's me. He has told me that it isn't me, that I have nothing to worry about, everything is going to be fine. I have been having a lot of anxiety attacks too, that is the main reason I am going to the doctor. But I don't know what to do in the mean time.

jenniepepsi · Jul 21, 2009, 02:49 PM

I'm glad your speaking to a psychiatrist about this. And good luck.

But really about the only thing you can do is do everything you can think of to try to relax and take it easy. I know, in this econimy its easier said than done. But you have support here.

And it sounds like, though you fight and argue, which is normal, it sounds like your boyfriend cares for you, and he is right, if he says that the issue is him and not you, it probably is and your lucky to have a man who is willing to admit something like that. World knows my husband wouldt admit to that ;)

Good luck hon. And feel free to come here and vent all you want. Ill definitely be here to listen *hugs*

Torrid13 · Jul 21, 2009, 03:07 PM

It's great that you're taking the steps to get help from a psychiatrist; a lot of people are too proud to do so!

Taking naps and going on walks always help me when I'm feeling irritable. I hope they can find out what's going on soon!

crisluvsu731 · Jul 21, 2009, 03:13 PM

Thank you jenniepepsi.

Yea, he is a good boyfriend. He has an appointment the same day with a different dr. So we are both working on it. It's just really hard, you know? I work at a bank and my manager is bi polar, I swear, our mood depends on hers. But, what can you do.

I am going home this weekend to my home state to visit my family so hopefully that helps me too. No work, just family and friends to surround me. Maybe it will get my mind off things for a while. Thanks for the advise.

crisluvsu731 · Jul 21, 2009, 03:14 PM

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s_cianci · Jul 21, 2009, 03:16 PM

Talking with the psychiatrist is your best bet. (S)he might be able to prescribe something to calm you down.

jenniepepsi · Jul 21, 2009, 03:16 PM

That's a good idea to help unwind and relax torrid, but taking a nap IF she is depressed, may make the depression worse. That's why I thought getting out of her regular routine of work and doing something she enjoys may help. (but your right :) I'm not disagreeing with you ;) )

crisluvsu731, what do YOU enjoy? More than anything. Reading-get a new book you want. Horses/horseback riding-visit a stable
You see my point?

Torrid13 · Jul 21, 2009, 03:22 PM

Jenniepepsi, you're right. At this point it's hard to determine if her anxiety stems from depression or just generalized anxiety. I suggested a nap because with my depression, I never sleep, and the sleep helps me a great deal. But everyone is different, and your suggestion about going out and doing something she enjoys is a terrific one!

I LOVE HORSES!

Yes, but you should do something you really enjoy Cris!

crisluvsu731 · Jul 21, 2009, 03:23 PM

Well, that's the problem. The things I like to do, my boyfriend doesn't. We live together and he likes to tell me how much he hates the things I like to do.
I love music, I am from Oklahoma and I was born and raised on country and I like top 40s music. He is from San Fransisco bay area rap, so he hates my music.
Being a girl, I like drama shows that help get my mind off my own problems:p, and he tells me how many brain cells I lose by watching my stupid shows.
I love going swimming and going to the hot tub, he is insecure about his stomach and back because he is hairy, so he won't go. I am a heavy set girl and he is always asking me how I can go to the pool in a tight swim suit and let everything hang out and be fine with it. So that has kind of kept me from going back.
I like reading and I have a lot of books, but they are drama like my shows, and romantic comedies and he tells me that I need to read things to make me intellegent, (in so many words) and they also put me to sleep.
See my delima?

Torrid13 · Jul 21, 2009, 03:28 PM

You need to enjoy those activities without him, then! And if he doesn't like it... well then tell him to suck it up and join you without complaining!

You deserve to go out and do things you enjoy, whether he likes them or not!

Tell him he's to' up from the flo' up and go have a good time and join him later in the day. :)

crisluvsu731 · Jul 21, 2009, 03:34 PM

Yea, well there is also something that I didn't mention. He is a total homebody and I am a very outgoing person, and I feel myself letting him keep me at home. I hate it and I get bad anxiety at home with him there because I know what I could be doing out side of the house. I am 21 and still trying to go out and have fun, he is 27 and has already done everything I want to do, and he hasn't ever really been into going to clubs, bar, or any parties.

jenniepepsi · Jul 21, 2009, 03:52 PM

Originally Posted by crisluvsu731

thank you jenniepepsi.

yea, he is a good boyfriend. He has an appointment the same day with a different dr. So we are both working on it. It's just really hard, ya know? I work at a bank and my manager is bi polar, i swear, our mood depends on hers. But, what can ya do.

I am going home this weekend to my home state to visit my family so hopefully that helps me too. no work, just family and friends to surround me. Maybe it will get my mind off of things for a while. Thanks for the advise.

Oh believe me hon I DO understand, my husband is diagnosed with depression and on medication for it, it works most of the time, but he does have slip ups still. I am bipolar, BLPD, disociative, and ADHD, and my duaghter is also ADHD lol. We are one great big family of ISSUES ;) hehe. It is hard in the beginning, but soon, once you get yourselves all fixed up and settled, it DOES get easier.

jenniepepsi · Jul 21, 2009, 03:57 PM

Originally Posted by Torrid13

Jenniepepsi, you're right. At this point it's hard to determine if her anxiety stems from depression or just generalized anxiety. I suggested a nap because with my depression, I never sleep, and the sleep helps me a great deal. But everyone is different, and your suggestion about going out and doing something she enjoys is a terrific one!

I LOVE HORSES!

Yes, but you should do something you really enjoy Cris!

You are very very correct. Everyone is different and some people do end up with the insomnia and loss of sleep rather than sleeping all the time. I'm glad we can give her lots of different advise so that she can find which one works best for her.

jenniepepsi · Jul 21, 2009, 03:59 PM

Originally Posted by crisluvsu731

Well, that's the problem. The things I like to do, my boyfriend doesn't. We live together and he likes to tell me how much he hates the things I like to do.
I love music, I am from Oklahoma and I was born and raised on country and I like top 40s music. He is from San Fransisco bay area rap, so he hates my music.
Being a girl, I like drama shows that help get my mind off of my own problems:p, and he tells me how many brain cells I lose by watching my stupid shows.
I love going swimming and going to the hot tub, he is insecure about his stomach and back because he is hairy, so he wont go. I am a heavy set girl and he is always asking me how I can go to the pool in a tight swim suit and let everything hang out and be fine with it. So that has kind of kept me from going back.
I like reading and I have a lot of books, but they are drama like my shows, and romantic comedies and he tells me that I need to read things to make me intellegent, (in so many words) and they also put me to sleep.
See my delima?

Welcome to the wonderful life of marriage hon :) though not in name or 'paper' living together and being together for a long time definitely falls under marriage (at least in my own opinion) and its impossible to find someone who likes everything you do, or vise versa. The term opposites attract is VERY true. If you find someone who is exactly like you, what would you talk about? You know?

I think you guys have a perfectly normal and healthy relationship. And while the depression is making things difficult its not completely lost :)

crisluvsu731 · Jul 21, 2009, 04:03 PM

Originally Posted by jenniepepsi

welcome to the wonderfull life of marriage hon :) though not in name or 'paper' living together and being together for a long time definately falls under marriage (at least in my own opinion) and its impossible to find someone who likes everything you do, or vise versa. the term opposites attract is VERY true. if you find someone who is exactly like you, what would you talk about? you know?

i think you guys have a perfectly normal and healthy relationship. and while the depression is making things difficult its not completely lost :)

Thank you jennipepsi, that makes me feel a lot better, : )