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xxonestarxx · Jul 14, 2009, 07:18 PM

Ok I have a boyfriend I have been dating for about two years and six months. At first everything was going amazing like evry relationship in the first few monthes. Then He started to get all psycho on me like texting me none stop, calling me to ask where I'm at who I'm with and all this other crazy stuff. It got so bad to where I can't even hang out with my friends anymore because he will like go crazy on me and try to look for me. I have to fallow a strict dress code like I'm in school or something. I can't even wear heels because he says I look to good in them. I have to wear basketball shorts to school and hoodies I can't wear v-necks because he thinks evryone is trying to hook up with me. I can't take it anymore!! :mad: I have to break up with him I can't even hang out with my mother with out him questioning where I am at. I just can't take it I need to leave him asap, but I don't know how to I can't do it in person because I am afraid of how he will react. I am afraid that he will try to hurt himself or come to my house and try to start something with me. Im scared but I have to do it soon before it is to late.

N0help4u · Jul 14, 2009, 07:29 PM

You need to get away from him the sooner the better! Do you want to be controlled like that for the rest of your life?? I guarantee it will only get worse!! Say you got married you would be a prisoner in your own house. He would monitor everything you did on the computer and every call you made. If you took the car to run to the grocery store he would check the mileage to see how many miles you put on it. He would time you and if it took 15 minutes to get there and back and about 20 minutes to shop and you took 45 minutes instead of 35 minutes he will be yelling who were you seeing. He will control how much money you can have, maybe $20. A week or a month if you are lucky. Not even letting you talk with your own mother IS utterly ridiculous and proves he is totally messed up. If you choose to stay with him then when you are invited out to things like family picnics, Christmas at a relatives or your moms you will always be making excuses trying to cover for his behavior so nobody knows what you are going through.
Like you will say sorry we can't make it Thanksgiving because I got the flu. This is dysfunctional at about its worse.

How old are you? If you are a teen you need to talk to your mom and have her help you put a stop to this. Your doing it on your own will most likely have him go totally beserk on you. You need everybody to help watch your back with him. Don't do it on your own.

Your mom should be able to get a Protection From Abuse order on him for you too if you are young. If you are older then you can get one out on him yourself. Then he can't even try and contact you or he will be in serious trouble.

none12345 · Jul 14, 2009, 07:42 PM

The funny thing is I used to be that person. Ever since my ex left me, I've grown into the complete opposite of that person. I've learned so much from my experience and it makes me want to become a better person.

I just want you to know, it does not mean he is a bad person but it is also unhealthy for you to be around him. Whatever he does after you tell him you want to break up with him is not your responsibility. He is in control of his own life. You should not feel guilty if he does anything stupid.

I think it would be best for you to avoid him right now and don't talk to him. Try to create some distance and if he approaches you in person and asks why you're doing this, that's when you tell him you can't do this anymore.

zippit · Jul 14, 2009, 07:48 PM

You could also talk to a counselor at your school
By doing this you will make them aware of any conflict that may come up
And you need to learn from this,so you don't get involved with guys like this in the future,you were atracted to this guy but there had to be signs you should have picked up on early to avoid what could potientially be a dramatic event in your life

Torrid13 · Jul 14, 2009, 07:59 PM

Okay, well you've pretty much answered your question. You can't take it anymore and you want to leave. Do it and do it fast.

And if he hurts himself, that's not your fault. No one would blame you for his stupidity. Him hurting himself because he's lost his cotton-picking mind isn't your problem.

Walk. Away. The End.

jenniepepsi · Jul 14, 2009, 08:16 PM

OK hon. I don't often go into my own personal life.

But these are all red flags to me.

My daughters father started SO SWEET and perfect! Then it started turning into the calls non stop. Where are you, who are you with, what are you doing, when will you be back.
Then it turned into 'dont wear that, because I said so' 'dont wear chap stick, it looks like lipstick and only whores wear lipstick'

Then it turned into 'you can't go out with your friends'

Then it turned into 'YOU LOOKED AT ME WRONG!! " *shove into the bathtub, nearly causing pregnancy bleeding, and almost miscarriage*

GET AWAY FROM THIS MAN ASAP. PLEASE!!