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    jphorner13 Posts: 36, Reputation: 2
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    Jul 9, 2009, 07:39 AM
    I keep having dreams about being friends with the people I've been cheated on with.
    The first one was my ex from two years ago. Here's that story in a bundle.. we were dating, we broke up, were back together, and low and behold he just starts dating a different girl, completely tossing me to the curb. (This was my junior year of high school). Since then I've had nothing but trouble from this girl and her friends, even though I have NEVER done anything wrong to them, much the other way. This year, the end of my freshman year in college, they're still causing problems. Never been major, just the little snickering behind me or things like that, but enough to just bug the crap out of me. (They're still dating, although I hear their relationship is totally whacky, they are both way possessive, cheat on each other, etc. KARMA.)

    The second scenerio is my current boyfriend (we've been dating for two years). Last year he went out of state to his home town and decided he'd sleep with a girl he knew there. I found out within the few hours he got back, had to find out myself actually, without him telling me. Of course I was beyond devastated and we ended up breaking up for a couple months. Well we've been back together for a little while now, although I know he doesn't deserve it. Anyway...

    Dream One: I'm sitting with the girl and we're like just hanging out somewhere. When we're about to leave she's like, "You know, we should be friends! You're really awesome." So I say back, "Yea we should, I just have to keep you away from my boyfriend!" And then we just laughed about that and I woke up.

    I woke up thinking, "What...the..(you can fill it in)"


    Dream Two: He and I go over to visit the girl and her sister to have like a nice dinner. We visit them and we're all smiles, etc. like we were long time friends. I go off to a different room during the visit and let out a few sobs, but go back to being smiley, etc.


    The difference between the two dreams is I actually felt pain in the second one, whereas the first one I was indifferent to her presence. Both situations still hurt me to think about honestly, esp. the second one. I haven't talked to my ex for over a year now, but that whole situation still hurts because well, it hurt like heck to begin with.

    So any ideas as to what these dreams could mean? I could never see myself being friends with the second one esp. the first one POSSIBLY if she and her friends put in effort for it, but it'd still be awkward.
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    Jul 9, 2009, 07:45 AM

    Maybe subconsciously your forgiving them.maybe your over it before you even realise...
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    Jul 9, 2009, 09:09 AM

    You shouldn't take your dream literally, this doesn't mean you will see this girl and be friends with her. Reading between the lines, and subconciously how our dreams work, basically these dreams are telling me that you still haven't let go of your feelings regarding this from the past, you feel insecure and you need to look within and try and change things for yourself, you need to move on, as its not worth it.

    In the second dream you were all smiles when visiting this girl, but yet you went off to get a hold of your 'real' feelings even in the dream, this to me is suggesting that you are prehaps putting on a front to other people, to please others, keep the peace, this maybe your personality, but underneath your still hurting and still haven't got over what happened, not properly. Are you now in a situation where you are needing to trust again? As this could explain the dreams also.

    You have made progress as you said it hurt like heck 'at first' but as we all know with time, it's a great healer.

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