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lotsaluuv · Jul 9, 2009, 12:22 AM

Hi guys, I love my fiancé so much and he loves me the same. The only problem is that he is form a muslim background but he is a christian. The only person in his family that's a muslim is his dad. My mom is so bent on the fact that once a muslim, always a muslim. Ive told her times without number that we are christians and that won't afect our relationship, but she doesn't believe it. She even told me not to put all my eggs in one basket and look for someone else but I'm not that kind of person. If I loose him I don't think that ill ever forgive her. Help.

Torrid13 · Jul 9, 2009, 12:45 AM

It's YOUR relationship and YOUR fiance'. NOT your mom's.

Tell her you respect her feelings, but do not agree, and will continue your relationship with your fiance'.

slapshot_oi · Jul 9, 2009, 05:06 AM

You can't let people push you around, even it's someone in your family.

I wish · Jul 9, 2009, 06:23 AM

This is an issue that you and fiancé should be discussing. It's up to the two of you to decide what the best course of action it, not the people around you. Do you make each other happy? Do you think these obstacles will really come between your happiness? How important is religion to YOU and your fiancé, (not to your mom)?

N0help4u · Jul 9, 2009, 07:22 AM

Has your mother met him and gotten to know him? Maybe if he tells her why and what he believes about his Christianity and why he chooses it over Muslim maybe he could convince her that he is for real and sincere.

Ultimately you have to live with your decision not your mother but it is good to work on building relationships but in the end you have to live with your decision

roxypox · Jul 9, 2009, 07:36 AM

This really is your relationship and not your mothers relationship. Of course she is your mother and she is most likely always going to try to look out for you and wish you the best of everything, but sometimes parents do put their nose where it doesn't belong (no offense to any parents, of course, I have the greatest respect for the job you guys do! )

It is a good idea to tell your mom that you respect her opinion, but don't agree. And don't let her pressure you into a decision you will not be comfortable with. If you want to continue your relationship, continue it. If you're happy and your man respects you, makes you happy and treats you well and really is the man you want to marry... why break up the relationship because your mom has an issue with his families religion?

BTW: is your mom a very religious woman? Is religion very important for her? And does she have any other problems with your relationship or is it just the religious aaspect of it?

Best of luck to you! Hope this was of some help (ps: and that I didn't step on anyone's toes ;))

smearcase · Jul 9, 2009, 08:51 AM

Maybe if he is baptized and joins your Christian church before the wedding your mother would be more receptive.

Fr_Chuck · Jul 9, 2009, 09:32 AM

Ask your mother if once a jew always a jew, then say I guess Christ is still one.

It sounds like your mom has preconcieved ideas on the Muslim faith, most likely all wrong also.

But at the end of the day, it is you with him, not your mom