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rikyzmommi · Jul 4, 2009, 11:35 PM

I have 2 children but my 9 year old daughter was adopted out to my husbands sister and brother-in-law about 6 years ago. We were in a bad spot and I was incarcerated and doing things that I should not have been doing. Now we are both on track. My husband has a great job as an electrician and I have a part time job. We have our younger son living at home with us and we just want our daughter back. My husband asked for her back from the grandmother (which is who she lives with) and she said that she would think about it but we want her back now since they are saying that they are moving her to Wisconsin. I cannot imagine my life without my daughter and I don't want to have to live that way. Please help me, I have been all over the internet and I don't know what to look for or what to do.:confused:

N0help4u · Jul 4, 2009, 11:42 PM

If the sister and brother-in-law adopted her what is she doing with the grandmother?

Once a kid is adopted out your parental rights are terminated and virtually impossible to get back. I don't know if there is anything you can do. I really don't think there is.

ScottGem · Jul 5, 2009, 05:26 AM

If the adoption was legal, then you and the father relinquished your rights to the child. Overturning such an adoption is going to be very difficult.

You have two things going for you. First, it sounds like you have maintained contact and a relationship with your daughter. Second, the child doesn't live with the adoptive parents any longer.

But the ONLY way you will get her back is by hiring an attorney to reverse the adoption. So your first step is to shop around for a Family law attorney. Many will give you a free initial consult and can tell you what they feel are your chances of regaining your daughter.

jackie73 · Jul 5, 2009, 06:40 AM

Search online at any free legal research sites for Uniform Child-Custody Jurisdiction and Enforcement Act. All states have adopted this federal statue concerning child custody. There are determinate factors regarding your case, but this is a good place to start your research. Are you pro se (representing yourself), or just curious as to your options?

ScottGem · Jul 5, 2009, 06:46 AM

Originally Posted by jackie73

Search online at any free legal research sites for Uniform Child-Custody Jurisdiction and Enforcement Act. All states have adopted this federal statue concerning child custody. There are determinate factors regarding your case, but this is a good place to start your research. Are you pro se (representing yourself), or just curious as to your options?

While this is not bad advice, it doesn't apply to the OP. She has stated that the child was ADOPTED, not given custody of In that case, the UCJEA doesn't apply.

jackie73 · Jul 5, 2009, 07:02 AM

Yeah, I should have paid more attention. Still, this does seem too complicated to attempt w/o legal help.

cdad · Jul 5, 2009, 07:06 AM

Originally Posted by ScottGem

While this is not bad advice, it doesn't apply to the OP. She has stated that the child was ADOPTED, not given custody of In that case, the UCJEA doesn't apply.

Exactly. It can not apply for the reasons stated.

stinawords · Jul 5, 2009, 08:09 AM

Just to add a little, if it was an actual legal adoption (not just a change in custody) depending on the state it will not be able to be reversed period. You will really need to get an attorney in your area to tell you if you have any chance in your state at all and if you do have even a slight hope you will need an attorney to to it.

Synnen · Jul 6, 2009, 07:48 AM

Originally Posted by jackie73

Yeah, I should have paid more attention. Still, this does seem too complicated to attempt w/o legal help.

Any situation dealing with adoption is too complicated to attempt without an attorney's help. Adoption law varies so much from state to state, and there are so many clauses and bylaws and whatever--There is absolutely no WAY I would advise anyone to go forward on an adoption (or ESPECIALLY attempting to reverse an adoption! ) without a lawyer.

As others have said, though--if the child was legally ADOPTED---your chances are slim to none.